[babeja]

Me and my boyfriend we have bee together 15 months,we used to have a lot of sex,we moved together and since my boyfriend lost interest,we didn't have sex for 6 months!I tried to speak to him 1 million times,first he said he is stressed because of work,then he was tired,then he said,he has got problem and he will go to see GP,but he never did.It looks like he didn't do anything to rescue our relationship,I'm not sex addict at all,I know no everything is about sex,but relationship without sex?Why have I got boyfriend then?Don't take me wrong,he is really nice to me,he will always to pick me up from work,if I'm busy he will cook,but thing he is refusing me non stop is really bringing me down.One time we had argument about not having sex and he told me,he is not sexualy atracted to me,then he apologised and said he didn't mean it,he was too angry.I don't really know what to think.Also he told me he doesn't have sex drive like he used to have,meybe because he used to have a lot of girlfriends before,by the way he is 30,I have got a lot of admirers,so I can't be so unatractive...

[CravenMorhead]

I am assuming that you're over 18 as well.

Stress and exhaustion are libido killers. He wasn't fibbing when he said that. Having several Lovers before you doesn't kill a libido though.

The unfortunate thing is that there is a grain of truth in all that is spit out in anger. I think you might have reached the end of your relationship here. I think you're frustrated that your needs aren't being met and that he is apathetic towards your needs. It is to evaluate the state and future of this relationship because it will end badly if it continues like this.

You have two choices:
1) You can brave this out and get him to see a GP and figure out what is going on. This could be a long process but if it is successful you should have everything to make you happy in this relationship. This could also reoccur netting you nothing.
2) Move on. End the relationship and find someone else. Someone more compatible.

Either way. Good luck.

[Eveebunny]

OMG its like we have the same problem. My boyfriends 26 and I'm not sure why they think they can make us feel like that. I know you might think your unattractive or disgusting because that's how I feel right now. My advice to you is tell him to buy you a sex toy then you'll never need him again. This proved to be a little affective to me, it makes them feel useless you see? Then you might get your way. Or you could tell him that your relationship is seriously taking a hit from this, it might help. If it doesn't he's not working tward your goal together. You know what you need to do if he's not willing to work on the relationship.

[SuziRider]

He is either suffering from clinical depression, or else the relationship is starting to fizzle.

Moving in together when there are no immediate plans for marriage can cause a relationship to deteriorate, since one of the two people is not really ready for a long-term commitment.
If he is being thoughtful and nice, that is because he is a nice guy, like a caring brother. He thinks you are a nice person, and doesn't want to hurt you, while he has lingering self-doubts.

You can be the sexiest woman on the planet, but if he is trying to create distance between the two of you because he doesn't think you're 'the One', nothing will help except for time apart. He needs to step back and re-evaluate this living together thing. If he moves out and then misses you, and can't imagine life without you, then it will result in an Engagement Ring. If he finds he is happier being single, be glad you aren't throwing more time into a dead-end relationship and move on to greener pastures.