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Lovely33 · Apr 30, 2011, 02:55 AM

I am 18 years old,a freshman in college, and I am just wondering when a nice girl like me is going to find a guy who will tell me I'm beautiful and treat me right? I've had absolutely no luck in the dating department my entire life. No guy has ever asked me out. I dress nice, people tell me I am pretty all the time (not meant to be cocky), I believe I am pretty, I am smart, independent, genuine, and most of all funny. I have morals, and tend to do the right thing. I was very involved in high school and I'd say well liked. I'm that girl who can pretty much get along with anybody, and usually never the 'leading lady' of my own life. I feel so terrible when I see couples together all over campus, thinking it will never happen to me. I don't really drink, I am a little more shy when it comes to guys, but only ones I like. I just want to know why no guy is showing me attention? I'm always a friend, nothing more. I'm tired of it already, and it makes me think that love or marriage won't be a part of my life in the future. I am sick of being judged for not having a boyfriend, to the point where my own parents question my "normalness". Please help a girl out, what's the problem? Thanks so much.

redhed35 · Apr 30, 2011, 03:23 AM

Perhaps your giving out a vibe of neediness or loneiness, changing that to a happy content one will help,

Happy people attract happy people.

At 18 you have such a long life ahead of you, there's so much to do and see in the world, maybe changing your focus a bit, planning a trip somewhere, even a road trip over the summer will give you something else to focus on,the guys will come, in droves! But in the meantime find your happy place.

Joining in activities will broaden your social circle, drama groups, debate groups, something your interested in.

There's nothing wrong with you, in fact you sound like a lovely young women with plenty to offer, know that your worth it and when the right guy comes along he'll see it too.

talaniman · Apr 30, 2011, 08:04 AM

You don't need advice just a few tips on adult dating that begins with building a life that you enjoy that makes you happy with yourself, and what you are doing. Then you will attract people that want to share that happiness with you.

And be patient, and objective. 18 is getting started, you have a long way to go, and many frogs to kiss, and take chances on.

Lovely33 · Apr 30, 2011, 12:33 PM

I am pretty much a positive person all the time though, I may be a little sarcastic, but I guess that's the "Chelsea Handler" in me. I will try to take more chances. I know at 18, it seems like everything is getting started, and everything feels like it's the end of the world, but its not. I just want a guy to share it with sometimes. However, this doesn't rule my life. I just don't understand guys. Thanks =)

Lovely33 · Apr 30, 2011, 04:45 PM

How can I truly forget about this guy that I liked for like 4 years, and still do? We were like more of acquaintances than friends, but we were friendly with one another. Nothing ever happened because basically when I was around him I was jello, it was pure word vomit. I couldn't just relax. I had him on a pedestal. Now I am in college, and I still think about him at least once a day. He's like the only guy I have ever felt this way for. There's just something about him. But he obviously thinks nothing of me because I could barely speak to him. I have this issue of idolizing guys I like, and therefore being so scared. So, how do I get over him? I still believe to this day we are supposed to be together, but am I crazy?

talaniman · Apr 30, 2011, 06:25 PM

Has this guy been distracting you from other options for love and romance the last 4 years?

Or have you been crushing because that's the option you wanted?

sadpuppyguy · Apr 30, 2011, 06:50 PM

Bro, you will find a girl, I promise. The key, don't be mean. This repels girls. Be nice. Give it time, the right one will come.

Lovely33 · Apr 30, 2011, 07:11 PM

Distracting, I'm not sure. I mean its possible. But I've always thought I wanted him. I just don't understand why he didn't feel the same

mmresd · May 2, 2011, 05:08 AM

@sadpuppyguy: the write of that post is a female...

Considering that you are only 18 I would assume that you have a BIG chance at find love in the future, considering that any romance feeling has barely started in your life. An important thing to keep in mind is that if you plan on finding someone who wants to be in a relationship with and be happy, that you first must learn how to be happy on your own. At this age a boyfriend is a luxury, or sometimes a burden. What is the rush? You don't NEED to have a boyfriend it would probably bring you more stress than you already have. Focus on things that matter, like school for example and you will see that the boyfriend issue will float in, without you even noticing.

Good luck,
Javi