[londeka]

I don't real know about my life I can't find serious relationship,the person I tell myself he is my man I have a kid with him things went real wrong we broke up and I real love him I don't know what to do please tell me to find a way to find him back or you can please advise me what to do THANK YOU A LOT

[I wish]

How old are you?

Just keep getting to know more people.

You don't find love. Love finds you.

[2ndTime]

We need more information about the relationship problem or we can't help you.

[londeka]

How old are you?

Just keep getting to know more people.

You don't find love. Love finds you.

Am 26 so how will I find that love,so no one will ever love I must stay out of relationship?like my baby's father there is no love between us?

[mudweiser]

Stop finding love.

Make it the bottom of your list.

Right now you need to focus on your baby. I'm assuming you and the father are no longer together?

Learn to be independent. You sound like you NEED a man.

Cripes. Go to the gym, start eating healthier, play with your baby, teach your baby sign language, go back to school, try to advance in your job, if you don't have a job and your on social assistance then ask for programs for you and your child.

Be active. You don't need a man, your baby needs you.

Sarah

[londeka]

I just wanted to know me and my baby's father its history or we will be together again?or must I forget about him?or when to him there is no love cause am the one who broke up with him now the baby is in the middle of this fight she can't even see her father and she missed him a lot so what must I do now?she does't even go to visit her father

[mudweiser]

What?


Sarah

[I wish]

Why did you break up?

If you're still head over heals about your ex, but he isn't, then you need to:

1) Spend more time getting over him, otherwise every new guy you meet will be a rebound. Go into no contact with him if you have to. If you stay in contact, your feelings will continue to linger around.

2) Focus on taking care of your baby. That's your priority now.

3) Is he paying child support? Take him to court if you have to.

[londeka]

Am very confussed my baby's father he dump me and told me nt to come to his house anymore its been, 5 months we don't see each other now he is strating to call me so am very confussed please tell me what to do,does he reall loves me

[amicon]

Could you add some more details please?

[Devorameira]

Sorry about all of your problems. I can't read your boyfriend's mind, but an "on again-off again" relationship isn't good. My guess is that he is either immature or a user. There is rarely a good outcome to ‘yo-yo relationships’ and at some point, you need to confront him, if necessary break it off, and stop flogging a dead horse.

There's a great guy out there that will stand by you and not put you through all the turmoil.

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Men aren't necessities, they're luxuries.

[ttazrin]

Sounds like he's got some mood swings. And he doesn't want to take responsibility for his child.

You should work really hard at making your relationship work. Make him realize that this relationship is where he belongs. Lure him with love. Hehe. I am sure things will work out and he will own up to his responsibilities.

It's better to settle with the baby daddy, then to be a single mother looking for the perfect love of your life, that doesn't exist.

Settling doesn't have to be a bad word. It leads to long term happiness, than to go for someone you have that spark with... that will eventually wear off shortly.

am very confussed my baby's father he dump me n told me nt to come to his house anymore its been, 5 months we dnt see each other now he is strating to call me so am very confussed please tell me wat to do,does he reall loves me

[I wish]

All threads merged.

Please keep all questions regarding the same issue in the same thread so that we can follow your story.

Focus on taking care of your child.

If the father doesn't want to be part of your child's life, then take him to court to make sure he's contributing support.

As for whether he still loves you, why don't you just ask him?

[londeka]

He doesnt;t pay support for the child,so it means he doesn't love me?cause am confussed

[amicon]

What matters here is your child,take him to court and make sure he pays-does he love you? You need to ask him.

[I wish]

he doesnt;t pay support for the child,so it means he doesnt love me?cause am confussed

Child support is what you are entitled to according to the law, it has nothing to do with his love for you.

What you need is to get a legal counsel to help ensure that all your rights are protected.

[talaniman]

Your child deserves child support and its your responsibility to make sure she gets it.

I think you have to be glad that this guy is showing his true self, and stop depending on him to do the right thing by you, or your child. That's something you should not be confused about.

Originally Posted by londeka
he doesnt;t pay support for the child,so it means he doesnt love me?cause am confussed

He doesn't love you or your child. That's why you have no use for him, except his money to support his baby he made with you.

[Dustin2239]

How old are u too start

[2ndTime]

Go and file to claim child support at the social service agency.

[Alty]

how old are u too start out

She already stated that she's 26. It helps if you read all the posts before responding.