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    marane22 Posts: 7, Reputation: 1
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    Apr 13, 2011, 11:47 PM
    Is he a player, or just playing games?
    So a guy I had eye contact with at a coffee shop ended up posting a personal ad about me, and when I saw him a week later at the same place at the same time we started talking. He was very persistent on getting to take me out for the first time, and after two weeks of matching schedules and calling each other on the phone it finally worked out. We hit it off great and went out again a few days later. He was constantly saying things that implied he wanted to hang out again, such as "well next time we hang out.." and "you'll figure me out soon enough.." and also constantly complimenting me, and being genuinely interested. He contacted me two days after the last time we saw each other, and we made short conversation, as both of us were busy. Then I contacted him about two days after that making small conversation seeing if he was busy and could do something. He does respond, however he hasn't been as frequent in contacting me, and has still yet to ask me to do something again. Is he genuinely not interested, am I overreacting, or is he just playing games? I should mention he's 7 years older and has made it a point to let me know he has more life experience behind him, but that I gave him a lust at first sight feeling (not exact wording). So confused, can't figure him out, help!
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    Apr 14, 2011, 01:03 AM
    Sounds like he lost interest.. that's not certain though, try seeing how it turns out - just be cautious of your feelings.
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    Apr 14, 2011, 05:05 PM

    You will know if it's a game by backing off, and see what he does. If he is interested he will chase you. If not, he will see how far you will go chasing him.

    There is always the possibility you are not his only option for dating.
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    Apr 15, 2011, 05:14 PM
    A lust at first sight. NO NO NO it should have been something like "you struck me with beauty i was shock" or " you looked stunning at first sight".. if a guy told me that I made him have lust, that would let me know he was attracted enough to Fuc*. And that's all. I may be wrong but guys who are consistent and then end up being busy all the time (no good). My opinion I think he is a player! Or your not the only girl he talks to.
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    Apr 17, 2011, 10:09 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by bebemarie18 View Post
    A lust at first sight. NO NO NO it should have been something like "you struck me with beauty i was shock" or " you looked stunning at first sight" .. if a guy told me that i made him have lust, that would let me know he was attracted enough to Fuc*. and thats all. i may be wrong but guys who are consistant and then end up being busy all the time (no good). my opinion i think he is a player! or your not the only girl he talks to.

    I find this laughable in view of your other thread - you're planning to marry someone you've never met? https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ml#post2775208

    What do you mean by "... guys who are CONSISTANT ..." That makes no sense.

    I'm confused by your language - are you in the US?
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