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MissMilah · Apr 12, 2011, 05:52 PM

Two years ago (although not confirmed by a doctor) I was in a bit of a depression. It lasted months and months and I was severely unhappy. Finally I acted in thoughts I previously/at that present time had, and tried to over dose on persciption and over the counter drugs. Long story short, it obviously did not work.

My boyfriend and I have not been together for very long but I wonder with him and even with others in the future is this something they should know even though it does not effect them? If I try to keep it in my past and not tell him do you think that is a bad thing? I am serious about my relashionships and my boyfriend has told me so much about his past good and bad. However I just don't know how or when to bring this up to him, or if it even really matters. Help?

JudyKayTee · Apr 12, 2011, 06:27 PM

Would it matter to me? No. Another time, another place. It sounds like it's over and done with, in your past.

Would it matter to him? You're the only one who knows.

IF there is a chance that you could slip into depression again, then, yes, if the relationship becomes permanent, yes, he has to know - I think.

ayanami26 · Apr 16, 2011, 04:08 PM

Well if he has been in your life for a long time and he won't judge you and he is also a wonderful boyfriend who you see yourself with in the future then it would be good to say things about your past that were tragic or not to him in order to understand you better, understand certain behaviors about you but it is still your choice so you should think about it for a while.

I know Im replying four days late :)

MissMilah · Apr 17, 2011, 07:11 PM

:) Better late then never, your response was helpful. That is the thing we have only known each other for about 3 months, however we are very serious about each other and he has told me everything (good and bad) about himself. He is that kind of guy, but I fear he will be upset that I did not share this with him. I just don't know how to go about it and if now is the best time. I want him to know so that its out there and he knows about the type of person that I am like you mentioned but I don't know if you look at someone differently after you tell them that. Because he has family and friends who's lives were cut short, and then here I am his girlfriend who simply didn't want hers anymore.

ayanami26 · Apr 17, 2011, 07:30 PM

Maybe you should wait a little bit longer, until you see yourself with him in the future. Serious relationships could also end shortly. He should understand that you waited to tell him at the right moment.

talaniman · Apr 19, 2011, 05:29 AM

3 months is not enough time to bare your soul to anyone, about everything and not long enough to know if he will be around a long time in my opinion. Stop worrying about how he will judge you until you know a lot more, have a better vision of your future, and know and trust this stranger a lot better. Sure he told you a lot of stuff, but there is much yet to learn.

But the biggest thing is that you are afraid of his reaction, and that says to wait until you are more comfortable with him. What's the hurry when you have doubts and fears?

There will be plenty of opportunities when you see his real feelings for you, but when rock the boat so soon? Let him know you to give him something else to judge you with besides your dark secret.

Not only that, I have read your other posts, that I assume are about this fellow.