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    FLICKER689 Posts: 8, Reputation: 1
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    Mar 31, 2011, 07:57 PM
    Sooo bored with this
    Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2years and as others we also had sex crazzy he is in the army always working but when he got back from over seas are sex drive when down completely ill ask if he wants blow jobs or try in spice things up and now his **** looks like it shrinking and he says things about it an i.e. tried to research it but nothing he flat out isn't interested in me or he's having sex with another woman I don't know what to do I'm always horney and he just is never in the mood I'm wondering if he really at work or>>> I need advice fast or I'm afraid my sex drive will lead to another man and I don't cheat HELP?
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    Apr 2, 2011, 10:53 PM
    How long has he been back? If its still recent give them some time to adjust to being back home and what not. Sometimes it's a lot of pressure to reintegrate with life outside of the combat zone.
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    Apr 3, 2011, 12:40 AM

    Glad to see you're only considering your issues and not your boyfriends.

    I need advise, I'm horney, I don't want to cheat... any more in there?

    Have you asked him how he is? Where was he deployed? What was he doing?

    Have you taken into account things he's seen & done? Has he had time to re adjust to civilian living? Is he on medication?

    How about looking outside the box.. other than the one you sit on?
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    Apr 3, 2011, 04:13 AM

    I think it's a good way to look for help and want to fix things - rather than "dumping the broken boyfriend" actually.

    I hear a lot of stories about people being in a completely different mental state after they come back from the army. It probably is the result of many things he had to see and do while he was there. You will have to be patient because it's all in his head. Give him time. Communicate. Don't underestimate professional help.

    Of course you are frustrated because sex is a part of the relationship but it takes time to build something solid with your partner so be patient. Good luck.
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    Apr 3, 2011, 09:33 AM

    Obviously he has things in his head to deal with, and so do you. Don't know what's in his mind, but we know what's on yours.

    If you cannot control what's on your mind long enough to get both your minds connected, then whatever the issue is, it never gets resolved.
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