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bm1991 · Mar 26, 2011, 03:31 PM

My parents have been married for almost 30 years. I thought they have been happily married this whole time but maybe I'm wrong. This is why I think my mom is cheating. She would be really secretive about things, like when I came into the room while she was on the computer, she would turn off the screen so I wouldn't be able to see what she was doing. Sometimes when I would come downstairs from my bedroom, she would be putting something away in the china cabinet of our dining room. About a year ago, I got the nerve to go see what she was always putting in the china cabinet, and what I found was a prepaid cell phone. There were texts and calls to and from all these different guys. But the weird thing was was that the guys were calling her by a different name. So then I got curious and one night after my mom went to sleep, I took her real cell phone and started looking through it and there was an email account on there with that same name that was on the prepaid phone. There were pictures and stories going back and forth between them. I don't know what I should do. I don't want to ruin my parents marriage, or mine and my mom's relationship, but it's so hard acting like I don't know anything. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Wondergirl · Mar 26, 2011, 03:55 PM

Talk with your mom. Of course, you're going to have to confess that you have been snooping in her business.

If something is going on between her and some guys, you won't be ruining your parents' marriage. She needs to know what you suspect.

jenniepepsi · Mar 26, 2011, 10:11 PM

In my opinion? You do nothing. They are adults, it is their marriage, not yours. Sorry to be rude, but really none of your business.

Spike_u2 · Mar 28, 2011, 03:05 AM

I think you should confront her and let her know what you've found. Ask her point blank. It seems you're old enough to have a straight talk. If this is for real, you need to call her out on it, especially if you love your father and he is being victimized. She shouldn't be doing this and she needs to realize what this is doing to her family. What is it doing to you?

Just remember this for as long as you live. Don't do this type of thing to anyone during your life. You've learned a valuable lesson.

DoulaLC · Mar 28, 2011, 06:16 AM

I'd talk to her as well. Let her know of your concerns.

ITstudent2006 · Mar 28, 2011, 06:44 AM

Ignoring this issue is not the answer. JenniePepsi is right when she says it'snot your relationship but in a sense, it is. What happens between them directly affects you and any siblings.

I would talk with your mother. NOT your father. Let your mother explain herself.

talaniman · Mar 28, 2011, 12:55 PM

I would talk to your mom, and be very truthful about your feelings, and why, and how you got them.