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wiland · Mar 13, 2011, 02:31 PM

I'm 17 and I've been working in a hotel as waitress for 2 years now and I've got really close to my boss. He's 30 and in a relationship and has two children, but they argue a lot and I can see its complicated because she is depressed. He says he wants to leave her but he can't stand to be away from his kids, we text a lot, work together a lot and its nice, I miss him when he's not around. Its complicated, I've never been in love and I don't know if its love but I think I'm getting in too deep in his business if the girlfriend finds out :/.

Fr_Chuck · Mar 13, 2011, 02:40 PM

Oh yes, he will leave them, ( when the cows fly) this is the oldest and biggest lie that men make when they want sex with young girls and are married.

So if he wants to leave them, he leaves them, then and only then you date him

ken007nielsen · Mar 13, 2011, 02:42 PM

There's numerous things wrong with this picture:

Office relationships, never really workout especially when it's boss and employee.
He's currently in a relationship - in which they have kids (pursuing this relationship will destroy the family life they have built.

He should not be discussing such things with you, nor should he be in contact with you outside of the work.

Your age difference is really big, he's 13 yrs older than you are. If I worked there I would see you as a kid not someone to have relations with.

The amount of life the two of you have experience is hugely apart - you have barely even scratced the surface where as he's pretty experience.

But let's say for a sec the above didn't matter at all, you would still be faced with this.
He want's to leave but due to his kids he can't. That means that you could never have a normal relationship with this guy.

confusedclover · Mar 13, 2011, 03:25 PM

This is what I would do.. do not do anything with him, if he asks say that you won't do anything until he leaves his girlfriend. And don't text him anything that his girlfriend wouldn't like. Just wait until he leaves her and if he doesn't, move on

talaniman · Mar 13, 2011, 06:05 PM

It doesn't matter if its love or not, he is a dead end street you don't even go down for any reason, I don't care what kind of problems he has at home or anywhere else.

Protect yourself, so he doesn't use you to make himself feel better at your expense, but he is off limits.

Sometimes we cannot control the way we feel about others, but we can control what we do about those feelings.

missk · Mar 13, 2011, 07:32 PM

Oh wow girlfriend, you got to listen to these answerers. They are spot on. Nothing good will come of this I promise you. You've got to control those feelings and let it go.

amicon · Mar 14, 2011, 01:47 AM

He's in a relationship,so he's not available.

He's also almost twice your age.

Don't fall for the old'my wife doesn't understand me' line.

Stop the flirting and if you have to,change your job.