[talaniman]

Why not, just don't lay it on to thick.

[yayoyayo]

Game over, she has a boyfriend and he's all up on her on her profile pic kissing her. I guess I should just let it go, I like her and still am crushing on her but there's not much left to do at this point I guess. OK

[I wish]

Next time you're better off not looking a girl up on social networking sites. That way you won't get influenced.

For example, in your situation, had you not looked her up, then you would have spoken to her naturally. Then if you find out later from her that she has a boyfriend, at least you would have already developed some sort of friendship. It's better to wait for a girl to tell you herself that she has a boyfriend rather than stalking her on the Internet.

[yayoyayo]

Yea your right well I checked but I never added her like I saw it on her profile because I wanted to add her.

But I ended up talking to her and she's such a cool girl we are talking more and more each time now and its been natural so I don't feel the need to even add her on there anymore. I saw her walk with her boyfriend out of class and I even saw them in the cafteria but they weren't talking at all and sitting so far from one another. I don't know what that means but little by little every time we go to class we're having more interaction so I'm really happy about this.

[talaniman]

Good you are enjoying getting to know her, but don't get your hopes up, or get to deep you can't get out. Don't obsess with her, and don't revolve your life around her.

Stay balanced fella. And realistic.

[I wish]

Check this guideline out: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating...ip-463250.html

For some insights.

[yayoyayo]

For sure thanks for the link ima check it out. Yeah I'm keeping my cool so far and so far its been working really good I hope it keeps doing so. I'm going to follow those guidelines and post back to you guys with more info.

For sure I'm going to stay balances and realistic and I think I'm going to take the waiting approach and see how it goes first

[talaniman]

Waiting for what? Her changing her mind? Her dumping her boyfriend? Get another girl, and don't wait for this one, or let her distract you from other options, and opportunities.

Waiting to see what she does next is a perfect waste of time and energy, and smacks of false hope, a hidden agenda, and a lack of thoughtful control of yourself.

Not good, or very mature, or realistic.

[yayoyayo]

Well I wasn't sure I just read the options off that guideline and chose that one I felt that was the safest to do. I think for now I'm just going to keep talking to her how I been doing since its been going smooth but at the same time I isn't going to have my hopes too high because at the end of the day right now she isn't single so there isn't no use but ill be there in case the opportunity rises, I mean ill stick around and try to make friends for now but I isn't going to try to make a move for sure until I think the coast is clear but in the meanwhile I'm not going to wait just on her you know, do you think that's a better approach

[I wish]

It's easy for people to tell you to find someone else, but if your heart isn't ready to give up yet, then be patient.

Just keep in mind that even if you decide to wait for her, it doesn't guarantee that she will come around to you. So you may be waiting for something that may never happen.

[talaniman]

Like you said, she ain't single, and may never be, or may never be single for YOU! Back off and have other things, and people to enjoy and share with, never know who might be available for a nice date.

For sure waiting for her, like a vulture isn't attractive, and can hurt like hell when she doesn't feel the same way about you. As you may feel about her.

You are in the friend zone, not the romance zone. Don't forget that.

[yayoyayo]

Hey, I know its been a while since I've posted. Yeah I don't think my heart is ready to give up yet so I will be patient because it means a lot to me. And if you ask me to tell you why I couldn't give you a reason why I feel this ones the one I just do and probably it makes no sense but I'm still feeling the same way even after all of this time. I did manage to talk to her a few times and a few times she talked with me too but then she gets accompanied with her boyfriend and then she takes off... it sucks I know. I'm not going to interfere but I'm just going to stick around anyway cause like I said its worth it to me (I still don't know why, but I feel she's the one)... as crazy as that may sound... I don't even get myself half the time but I guess my brain just works like that. And yeah well I like her a lot. She's been with the guy 3 yrs, almost 4, so that's a long time but whatever. I figured she just really is quiet as she talks with no one in class and that's what's made it harder for me but I just keep trying to better myself as a person first... since my last post I've lost about 15 pounds of body fat and I've been working out and just focusing on my studies. I don't think ill get over her, which is my weakness that ill have to live with I guess. I'm still trying to be her friend and get closer but in no way am I in a rush. There's nearly 3 weeks left of school and I'm just going to keep initiating conversations and keeping cool and just being myself... (ive learned to chill out over the course of this experience and just be myself)... and after the semesters over I'm just going to add her online and keep talking and ask if she wants to ever hang out just as friends or something. Yeah well that's the plan anyway. I know it may not seem worth it to people who read these posts and think I should just give up and there's no hope, but its just a feeling I get within me that hasn't changed so I hope it works but ill just keep on trying. I think things will fall into place. Ill keep giving you updates like before on what goes down though and I thank everyone for helping out and talanin a lot for the help. Ill keep you posted.

[talaniman]

Thinking someone is the one, but they don't think you are the one, sounds crazy to me, but good luck.