[Jabybebus]

Well I first met my ex at schoolies, we were just friends the whole time and got a lot closer when we got back, we started going out and I tried to open up to her about things but she always just shut down saying she's got too much baggage and she's not the type of person to talk about problems, well from here on out the relationship deteriorated as I kept trying harder and harder to get her to let me in and she kept pulling further and further away until she finally just told me via msn that she doesn't like me and more and she could never like me. I tried to remain friends after that because she really wanted to but then she started openly flirting with my friends who she had also become friends with, until one night when we were all at my mates birthday party when she got drunk and was openly making out with all of my friends (this is all within a space of about 3 weeks from start to end) and she ended up having sex with at least one of them, I left the party half way through the night because I couldn't handle seeing her doing all that stuff. Since then I've been trying to eat healthier going on a fitness diet and exercising regularely (im a pretty fit person as is but just have a few insecurities that I'm trying to work through) but the more I try and focus on my health and fitness the angrier I get, when I go to sleep at night I lay awake thinking about that night and all other paranoid things which makes me angrier and angrier. I have cut off all contact for a week now but I just seem to keep getting angrier no matter how hard I try and focus on other things. I haven't seen on talked to any of my friends and feel severely betrayed on all counts. What can I do to try and work through this I feel like I'm drowning in my own anger and nothing I try is helping

[Geoffersonairplane]

She sounds really immature my friend and definitely not relationship material. I would leave well alone. You have a right to feel angry, she was so immature to do that to you on MSN?? How old is she?

You might have insecurities, fine but you are doing all the right things to work through these, perhaps counseling would help. The fact that you have broke contact is excellent and a real indication of you maturity and by keeping busy and exercising, it won't be too long before you are over this.

There is so much better out there for you and you will find a mature woman who can appreciate you and equally important, open up to you!

[talaniman]

Hang in there bud, you've made the right moves so far and you loose NOTHING with this immature female. You just found out something about her you NEEDED to know. I bet there is a female who is lookig at you now, wishing she could have a guy like you so get over the anger and get a REAL nice female you deserve. It will work out.