[tiger33lily]

Hi I'm 36 I've been with my man almost 2 yrs now on christmas day he asked me to marry him I said yes , when we first met we were having sex and he was more affectionate , now its terrible all I get it a quick peck in the morning then one when he comes home then another when he goes to bed . I haven't had sex for almost 6 months its making me feel horrible , I have talked to him about this all he says is he can't help it if he is tired ! I ask myself over and over again why did he ask me to marry him ? We should be in our prime but we clearly isn't and I feel like calling it a day and finding someone else . Any ideas? Thanks .

[PeterRabbit]

Find someone else girl!
You deserve to enjoy and have fun having sex with your partner. Having sex is one of the rare pleasures God gave us, and, at your age, it should happen at least few times a month. He cannot possibly have a 6 month constantly tired excuse. Something is definitely wrong there.
There are two options here in my book:
1. His health is not OK in the under the waste area
2. He gets his share somewhere else

[Hamselv007]

The more sex you have the more you want to have it, just try to get him started..

Since you know him the best I'm going to let you decide what to think up that could get him in the mood..

[Cat1864]

How old is he? How is his health? Is he on any medications? Does his job exhaust him? Is he under a lot of stress from work, family and friends, financial, etc. Is there a pressure to have sex that is causing the original issue to become worse?

Why did you agree to marry him if you weren't getting sex when he proposed? Is there anything else in the relationship that makes working on your sex life worth it?

Sex in a relationship is not constant. There are times when it is great and times when it is non-existent. You should be able to talk to each other and work together during the 'droughts' to find the cause and see if there is a fix or compromise. If needed, counseling can be a way to find and work through the issues.

Communicating means that both of you express your needs and desires and listen to the other person. If he is unwilling to communicate or work with you, then you may need to decide if the relationship is worth the frustration.

Good Luck.

[redhed35]

Just to to Cat's advice.

Plan a date night.

Go out for a meal or cook at home, candles, music, dress up the works.

Make sure you both know what's going to happen and agree to make it as romantic as possible.

Relationships take work and sometimes they need a romantic plan!

[tiger33lily]

Thanks peter , I thought he was having an affair but he gets no time to he is either at work or home so I don't think that is the reason , and we have had sex in the past so I know everything is in order if not he would talk to me about it . I get grumpy and moody he said I have mood swings but I probably do but I'm hardly going to keep quiet and be happy and forget about sex am I ! In my past relationships I've always had my fair share of sex lol . I think this is why I'm so worried and scared and think to myself is it me am I to fat / ugly or what ! I just want an answer and all I get is drainned out or tired .