[Msright]

My sons father was not the best boyfriend, though I've never called the police on him. Our relationship was not the best in the since that he constantly spoke to me bad and said nasty things to me in front of our son every time we argued. He was more emotionally and mentally abusive than physical. There are people who have witness his over the top demeanor when he was upset, over little things. I went for a visit to Maryland and ended up staying because of the way he spoke to me and my mother. He was threating and calling us out of our names simply because our son and I were not returning on the date that he originally thought, which turned out to only be a three day difference. I just want to know if I am wrong for not going back and keeping our son. Ive tried to work out a plan in which we can share custody but he doesn't want him out in Maryland or with my family. I need help, because I am so confused.

[excon]

I need help, because I am so confused.

Hello Ms:

In the absence of a court ordering custody and visitation, NOTHING will happen to you. You have the right to travel ANYWHERE you wish with your son.

Now, he may go to court and seek HIS parental rights. He'll probably win too, but the visits he'll be allowed will be IN your new state, or in his if he pays ALL expenses for travel. Where ever you land, you should go to court to establish YOUR rights and to get child support.

excon

[tickle]

You have to have some sort of arrangement and time frame set up by the courts regarding custody. So... you don't have this ? Your post is a little confusing. Is your son with his biological father, and staying in Maryland, and you visit there?

If he is staying with his dad, and there is no court order then, if you take your son away from his bio dad, he could have you charged.

Just make it perfectly clear what you mean, please.

Tick

[Msright]

Our son is with me in Maryland. He came with me when I came to visit. There are no custody arrangements through the courts.I want to make this clear, I am NOT trying to keep him away from his dad, but his dad is making it seem as if I am. Since I have made Maryland my place of residence, Ive been trying to make custody plans with his dad, so that we won't have to go to court. But he is not agreeing with anything that I am suggesting. All he wants is his son in California with him and his family with me having visitation. But what he fails to understand is that our son is used to me being his primary caretaker. If our son is taken away from me, he will not be the same. I know this simply because Ive left him with his dad before and all he did was cry for mommy. I want his dad to be in his life, but I want our son to be with me in Maryland since it is better for him and in the since of no arguments, no smoking and I will have the help I need to put him in school and support him. I don't ask his dad for a dime, nor does he offer it. I don't want to look like a bad mother, more like one who wants what's best for her son and not what's best for her.

[excon]

I don't want to look like a bad mother, more like one who wants whats best for her son and not whats best for her.

Hello again, Ms:

You don't have to convince me. I gave you the legal answer you asked for. But, since you DID try to convince me, I'll tell you this much - unless he abused him, taking your son away from his father is NOT good for your son at all - NOT at all.

excon