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    Feb 24, 2011, 10:55 PM
    Me and girlfriend of 2 years taking a break. Little different.
    Hey all, I've been looking at many of the posts here trying to find some advice (great advice by the way, all) on my situation here.

    We are both 2nd year college students at the same school. 2.5 weeks ago we were talking on the phone one night and I could sense something has been making her seem detached in our interaction with eachother; we hadn't been having quite as much sex which isn't major, but I felt it was a sign of decresing interest. Anyway, she tells me when I asked her if something was bothering her that she is feeling confused. She seemed to be wanting to hide back all responses that could possibly hurt me and I finally got it out of her while remaining fully intact and unshaken. She said she sees us breaking up in the future as we are young (19/20) and hinks it no good to even fathom us getting married now. I didn't give her the slightest hint that I was in pain, and I am sure of this. We agree to go on a break.. only.. throughout the break we texted here and there. Including a text she says "I know I'm supposed to care right now, but a birdie told me.....(I was involved in something dangerous)." I told her it was a friend of mine and that I'm their connection merely. We text briefly on this subject. This I think sparks the texting to normalcy again. Anyway, we text another day and decide to go out for valentine's day together. I know it wasn't a good idea, but this was only 2 or 3 days after we talked about her being "confused about the relationship and her feeling a bit distant". I got the 12 roses, looked sharp as a knife, and didn't once bring up our conversation. No kiss. The conversation at dinner was great and she ended up asking me to come study with her at her place for the night (perfect thing would have been to say sorry I've got plans), I acted like I was unsure, but then agreed instead. We get back, etc. Reading, studying, all that.

    -------SIDENOTE: Her 2 roommates she lives in an apartment with have disliked me for some time for "acting like I live there" (i.e. changing the channel when I'm the only one in the room or sitting in THEIR recliner.. excuse me b#tch). Neither of them has had a boyfriend in ages and they both around the same time end up in a relationship.. the one who is passive aggressive has her boyfriend shower and sleep over until late in the day after they all go to class.. and my lady sees this and is upset but won't say anything. She tells me she thinks we'll never get along and it bothers her.
    During studying, one roommate comes home and is exchanging valentine's gifts with him. My ex is out there and calls me out to watch which I thought was a ridiculous idea.. I come and we sit on the couch and watch. After every gift they'd kiss and whatnot and say thank you not paying any attention to us sitting there which made me feel awkward, not to mention furious with jealousy that my valentine's day wasn't so responsive. I say "well guys I'm going to finish up some work. Happy valentine's day." They respond with the same and I go back to my ex's room and continue reading. She comes back a little later because she and that roommate were working on a project together for a class. We read on her bed together and I finish and begin to give her a massage. I undo her bra which she gives me permission to do and I rub her down some more. 3 or 4 minutes go by then she says she wants to watch some show on hulu (website) and we turn out the light eventually. A goodnight, no kiss. I sleep with my arm around her.

    Few days later, we meet for lunch. Meal was fine.. I ask her to go hang for a little at a place on campus students all sit outside when it's nice out. I bring up the situation and she said she's been forcing herself not to think about it as I had been doing too.. blocking it out if you will. She says she wants to be able to do what she wants without worrying about me. (Our relationship has never had fights, so I feel it got too boring) After explaining to me in great detail that her mood about wanting to stay with me and then wanting time for her own thing changes with the weather, every single day and it is driving her crazy. I have always been lucky to have a girl so honest (blunt at times), so I don't feel the need to not believe her, though I take everything in question. She says she feels having me wait for her is selfish when she cannot even tell herself what she feels. ("My brain and my heart tell me different things" is exactly what she said.) She then asks me what I think we should do (wanted to say stay together and figure it out), I instead say maybe a break is a good idea.. a cool down for a bit should do some good. She agrees. I tell her she's going on ice for real this time.
    Friday>Saturday>Sunday>Monday - Nothing
    Shoot her a text at like 11am Monday night, a question about her sister that I knew would spark her interest. Ended the text conversation after like 3 texts, my plan was to just get into her head. She'd text nearly right after my delayed light hearted texts, trying to keep the conversation going it seemed. Then an "I'm exhausted, night."

    Tuesday>Wednesday>Thursday>Friday a 1:08am here I am now. Nothing since, and I've been busy with studying, friends, sports, the whole bit. Going to a campus near home (I'm at home now and she is visiting home this weekend as well) tomorrow night as well to visit some friends.

    I saw something on her Facebook, a status saying - "To delete my facebook for a little or no?". Her friends said don't do it and all that stuff. She said "I figure I'll save my myself from being bored AND from insanity." Another asked why and she said she'd tell her when she came for a home visit on the weekend, so I'm convinced it has to do with me like helping her move on or testing if she can. During this break I've been being my old self (a little rascal) and posting on my girl friends' walls and getting back together with the guys more often than I had before. I thought I could figure this deal out up until here! Am I looking into it too far, or should I keep posting my statuses as often, or less often; even though I know that's her "controlling me"? Deleting her as my friend sounds a bit excessive, and I know one of you will say it. I've been acting online as if her disappearance doesn't phase me, even to the extent where I'm better off, will this make her feel like this is the right decision? Because I don't think it is. Also I made the mistake of liking one of her sister's videos she posted to her wall (I saw it on my newsfeed update). Mainly it's the status updates.. less posts so she doesn't know what I'm up to? Or more to drive the regret of not being a part of my life to her? Like visiting another college tomorrow?

    I'm her 2nd real relationship as she is a cautious lover and we've been dating since senior year of high school. Just trying to pic this girl's brain, it's a lock not even a master locksmith could manage.. and evidently not one she can pic either.

    Love this site, and love you all. Thank you so much for your time.

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