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jackaguir0234 · Feb 7, 2011, 09:28 PM

Okay, so I like this girl and she's my friend that I've known for about a year now. I want to ask her out, but I have a few problems.
1) When people started saying we were going out I denied it in every way. Then they asked if I even like her. I said no.
2) I've had a crush on her for about twice as long as I've known her. I really don't want to go out with her and mess up the relationship and our friendship all at once.
3) I am beyond shy. We're both emo but I'm more of a sensitive, keep quiet kind of guy. When I'm with her and the rest of our friends, I kind of open up to them. Because they kind of understand me.
Now that you see my problem, if anyone is willing to help me out in any way I'd really appreciate it. If you can't, well I'd understand. I've searched fir a solution for the past few months. All in all, thanks.

ken007nielsen · Feb 7, 2011, 10:07 PM

Seems to me like that if you were okay with just being friends you wouldent have searched the internet for a few months. Then remaining friends isent enough for you.

If I have a crush on someone I would always react on it, unless of course they are already committed to someone else.

And I can understand your worried about breaking a relatioship with a dear friend. But there's no guarantee that if it doesent work you can't be friends after.

I say, don't deny yourself the opportunity to date someone you like.

aaward1 · Feb 8, 2011, 06:27 AM

You need to ask yourself if you can live with never taking the chance on a relationship. I personally say go for it, better to try and fail than to not try at all.

answerme_tender · Feb 8, 2011, 08:09 AM

Well I have a question here--if someone comes up to you THIS time are you going to deny liking this girl yet again?

Only ask her out if you feel that have matured enough to handle any questions pertaining to a relationship with her. No one wants to go out with a guy that gets weird or avoids being asked about his feelings towards the girl he supposively likes!!

Otherwise, I have agree with the other post. You need to take the chance and ask her out. But, make sure you don't act like you are doing her a favor by asking her out. Let her know that you really care for her.

Take care

talaniman · Feb 8, 2011, 11:57 AM

How old are you? That would make a lot of difference as to the advice you get.

Crushes are crushes, friends are friends. Friends is a lot more important, and until you get hints from interactions between just the two of you, then don't act on your impulse to pursue her.Being part of a larger group, makes it hard to be a smaller group, just you and her.

More info, please.

I wish · Feb 8, 2011, 01:44 PM

I was thinking the same, how old are you?

Your friends can help you all they want, but at the end of the day, you're going to have to step up to the plate and talk things through with her.

jackaguir0234 · Feb 8, 2011, 03:31 PM

I'm 13.

answerme_tender · Feb 8, 2011, 04:08 PM

Well with knowing that you are 13yrs and I assume she is either same age are close to yours. So keep this in mind that she is a very young lady, and most parents do NOT let their young daughter of that age date. So this will a girlfriend/boyfriend situation while in school. So keep that in mind when approaching her to see if she likes you.

Good luck--take care

Homegirl 50 · Feb 8, 2011, 04:39 PM

At 13, stay friends with her. You are not ready to date, if you were you would not deny that you like her.
Friendship is cool!

talaniman · Feb 8, 2011, 05:47 PM

13?? Where do you think you can ask her out to? I doubt your parents let you date anywhere. Back in my day it was called "going together" and it was great giving each other titles like boyfriend/girlfriend, and you call each other after school, and what not. Then 3 weeks later she dumps your butt. For two days you feel bad, and you think it's the end of the world, until you start crushing on another girl.

So my advice is forget asking her out because you are already in a group setting at school, and everyone will know you two are talking and shoot all kinds of goofy embarrassing remarks, heck she my even talk to her girl friends about anything you say to her.

Stay friends guy, maybe ask for her number so you can call her and talk privately. But every guy has to know, just because you like a girl, or have a crush you act on, she may still tell you, NO, NO THANKS, or she has a crush on your friend.

Then what would you do? For sure you will be embarrassed right?