[ClinicallyFrustrated]

OK time for a bit of an update...

Sorry I tried to keep it short, but there are just too many details I can't leave out... If u refer to the original post you'll get the jist of what is going on but here's the long story short.

Me and this girl were "together" for about 4 months our senior year of HS. She was afraid of a committed relationship, but I wanted one too badly. I think I got a little too clingy/needy and she said she "wasn't feeling it anymore" and broke it off over text message. I was devastated and did all of the things I shouldn't have. I begged for her to try and work things out but she just wasn't interested in me anymore. I never got any closer.

That summer she was with this other guy that went to my HS. After college started they tried the long distance thing I guess for a couple months and he apparently broke it off with her. Like a couple weeks later she starts talking to me more often. She tends to go on these spurts where she wants to talk to me a lot all of a sudden. Our convos were mostly just friendly, but she would definitely flirt w/me over Facebook too.

This girl has never said that she loved me before, and said she did when I turned 19 last week. Now, I don't know if she meant it as a friend or what, but me being drunk texted back "Seriously ur the sweetest person ever. I love u too." She texted back and was apparently really happy to hear that, but I never got the chance to tell her that I have NEVER EVER told anyone, not even my family, that I loved them. I know for a fact now that I'm in love w/this girl because its been about 9months since our "breakup" and I haven't even seen her once, but I never lost my feelings for her. We both go to school in the same state, but its still a 2.5hr drive away. She said she wants to see me over spring break, but she said that about winter break too and she never followed up on it.

So my question is, can I get her back? And is being friends with her going to help? She said she wanted to stay good friends after she broke it off with me, but I don't know if that's the best way for me to get her back. WE were never really good friends before we got together, we always knew each other but never really hung out before. We kind of just jumped into things. We have kept in touch since our breakup, I have too strong of feelings for her to just be friends w/her. What if she ends up dating another guy? She told me a couple days ago that she doesn't want to be with a guy until she is "out of her 20s" she might have meant "in her 20s" but I don't know. I asked her why and she said it just never works out well. Apparently she took the breakup pretty hard when the last guy she was with, left her for another girl at his school. What do I do? I haven't heard from her in a couple days, but she was telling me earlier that her friend at school wanted to meet me over skype. I don't know why she'd want to meet me unless this girl has been talking about me to her friends? I don't know anymore. I need some serious guidance. It been 9months since she ended things and my feelings have not changed one bit... NOW I know I love this girl and that it's not just infatuation.

[talaniman]

Then you better find out if she feels the same, or are you her emotional tampon, while she heals and gets ready for her next adventure.

I can't believe you are still stuck where she left you before.