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husky004 · Jan 26, 2011, 03:47 PM

I know what I'm getting into, it was a risk I took when I asked this question. But I don't care if you have a problem with it. I just needed to know if the law would. And now I know, I'm only here to try and convince everyone that it's not wrong

J_9 · Jan 26, 2011, 03:49 PM

You aren't going to convince any of us. Sorry, won't happen. We are all, well most of us, parents. We know the difference between right and wrong.

husky004 · Jan 26, 2011, 03:49 PM

I know the risks, I'm just trying to do the right thing and find out if it's illegal, can't anyone give me credit for not just going ahead with it? At least I asked. A lot of people wouldn't do that beause of the abuse they'll get

Bunnyrabbit2310 · Jan 26, 2011, 03:52 PM

The age is different in different parts of the uk where do u live?

Curlyben · Jan 26, 2011, 03:52 PM

Originally Posted by husky004

i know what i'm getting into, it was a risk i took when i asked this question. but i don't care if you have a problem with it. i just needed to know if the law would. and now i know, i'm only here to try and convince every1 that it's not wrong

What YOU chose to do with your life is YOUR concern, but this course is foolhardy at best if not down right STUPID.

You will NOT be able to convince anyone here that what you are doing has any merit, although we are not your immediate problem, that would be the Australian POLICE.

We will NOT candy coat this as, as you have already acknowledged, is WRONG in so many ways.

husky004 · Jan 26, 2011, 03:52 PM

And I respect that, as I have said. But even if this is going to end badly, it the only way kids and teens learn from all I have heard, by making mistakes. And I do know the difference between right and wrong. It just depends on who judging

Helenwozere · Jan 26, 2011, 03:53 PM

Hi, talking as someone who has been there. First facts... no it is not legal for yous to have sex. You could be done for satutory rape. There is no laws as far as I know on kissing or hugging or holding hands.
Now.. does her parents know about yous? When I was 13 I started to go out with my first boyfriend who was 19 my parents did not like it but they excepted it. Saying that I got pregnant at 15 and they were not happy they could have sent him to prison for for 5 years but I'm glad they didn't because we are still together 16 years and 3 kids later. So what I'm saying is talk to her parents and yours and see what they say.

I hope this helped.

J_9 · Jan 26, 2011, 03:54 PM

Originally Posted by Bunnyrabbit2310

The age is different in different parts of the uk where do u live?

The OP is NOT in the UK, but rather in Australia.

Curlyben · Jan 26, 2011, 03:54 PM

Originally Posted by Bunnyrabbit2310

The age is different in different parts of the uk where do u live?

Bunny, please pay attention to the thread.
The OP is NOT in the UK, but Australia.
Also the Age of consent in England is the SAME across the whole country

husky004 · Jan 26, 2011, 03:59 PM

It did, you're the first person to not call me a pedophile or saying what I'm doing is wrong. Thank you, and I will talk to her mum, her fathers dead, but I would prefer to not tell my parents. I'm not a fan of the 'moraly wrong' lectures

husky004 · Jan 26, 2011, 04:00 PM

And I know that may seem immature, but it her mum being okay with it that I would like to get more than my own

Helenwozere · Jan 26, 2011, 04:00 PM

I have just read down through the answers some of you put here and I'm shocked. Yes I'm a new member but I joined to find help not be judged. I can't believe yous would attack someone like this.
Shame on all yous!

J_9 · Jan 26, 2011, 04:02 PM

Originally Posted by Helenwozere

I have just read down through the answers some of you put here and i'm shocked. yes i'm a new member but i joined to find help not be judged. i can't believe yous would attack someone like this.
Shame on all yous!

Shame on us? We don't condone illegal behavior.

Originally Posted by Helenwozere

I have just read down through the answers some of you put here and i'm shocked. yes i'm a new member but i joined to find help not be judged. i can't believe yous would attack someone like this.
Shame on all yous!

So you would allow your 13 year old to date an 8 year old? Maybe you need some help as well.

husky004 · Jan 26, 2011, 04:07 PM

Thank you, you're the first to give some possotive feedback. And that means more than you know in this

Bunnyrabbit2310 · Jan 26, 2011, 04:07 PM

It says uk in the question sorry

husky004 · Jan 26, 2011, 04:09 PM

Oi, leave helen alone, at least there's some positive reinforcement in there. You should all know that calling someone a pedophile doesn't really get on there persuasive side

Wondergirl · Jan 26, 2011, 04:11 PM

Originally Posted by husky004

Comment on Helenwozere's post
it did, you're the first person to not call me a pedophile or saying what i'm doing is wrong. thankyou, and i will talk to her mum, her fathers dead, but i would prefer to not tell my parents. i'm not a fan of the 'moraly wrong' lectures

Why is that -- why would you prefer not to tell your parents?

Curlyben · Jan 26, 2011, 04:11 PM

Just to clarify, NO ONE referred to you as a paedophile, the terms used where predator and grooming.

Alty · Jan 26, 2011, 04:13 PM

now I hate australia even more, and know that it definitely wouldn't work out here

I hate to burst your bubble, but it wouldn't work out in Canada either. No where, that I know of, would approve of a relationship that involves a 16 year old teen and an 11 year old child.

I would like you to answer something for me, and I did ask in my last post. If you really love her, why not wait to date her? When she's a adult than there's nothing stopping you two from dating. Seven - nine years really isn't that long to wait if you're really in love.

I also want to address the fact that you think we're all being rude. You have to understand something. You're talking to people that all have kids, some of them close in age to you, and the young girl in question. My daughter is 8, it scares the crap out of me that in 3 years I could be facing something like this, and yes, I would view you as a predator, and yes, I'd see you in jail.

You may have innocent intentions towards this girl, but the fact is, she's a child, she is innocent, doesn't know what romantic love is. You are in a position of power because of your age and hers. That's what makes you a predator in the eyes of many of the people posting here.

Also, you asked for advice on the law, and you got it, yet you're still arguing about it. The choice is yours. Do you obey the law, walk away, save yourself from becoming a sex offender (because that's how you'll be viewed in the eyes of the law) and save the girl a lot of heartache and bad memories, or do you continue to date her, proving that you really are a predator, because you know that it's not only morally wrong, but legally wrong as well.

heyitsemi · Jan 26, 2011, 04:14 PM

I think that if the girl is willing herself and he's not forcing her into anything, and he's clarifying that he's not touching, I think it's okay. It's just hugging, holding hands, and kissing. People do that normally anyway. I don't think he's going to touch her or anything. It's just my opinion. If they really like each other, I don't think people should be mean about it because it's not any of our choices. It's their choice and you can't really stop love.