[Trouble123]

I'm 13 years old and my boyfriend is 15. We have been going out for a while now... well really a few months, but it feels like forever... We truly do love each other... and when we are alone, we get up to a lot of trouble... lately, we have got each other top off, and gave each other lovebites... but I feel like we are ready to have sex, but a I ready to do this? We have talked it through and we both really want to do it... well we aren't dying to do it... we could wait, if the other one isn't ready... but I've heard a lot of stories about sex.. and its making me not want to do it... but I keep confusing myself.. HELP ANYONE? xx

[Wondergirl]

The better question is, "Am I ready to be a mother?"

No matter how much protection you use, there is still a chance you will get pregnant.

How would that change your life? How will that change your relationship with your parents? Do you have a full-time job so you can afford all the baby supplies and equipment you will have to buy? Are you finished with your education? Are you willing to give up being with friends because you will be at home with a sometimes crying, sometime sick, sometimes hungry baby? Are you mentally and physically prepared to have a special-needs baby? (The chances are good when the mother is very young.) Will this boyfriend stick by you and be a good father for the baby?

The only way to prevent getting pregnant is not to have sex.

[justcurious55]

If you have to ask, you're not ready.

For when you do think you're ready, here's a few things to keep in mind...

There's an age gap between you and your boyfriend. It may not seem like a big deal. But in the eyes of the law, it is. Do you know what the age of consent is in your state? Is he willing to risk being labeled a sex offended for the rest of his life for having sex with you? Do you really love him if you would let him risk it?

What about birth control? Do you know anything about birth control? Have you verified everything you think you know with an expert? Are you on any form of birth control? Do you even have access to birth control?

And of course even if you are on birth control and using it correctly, no birth control is 100% effective, except for abstinence. So let's say you have sex and the birth control fails and you become pregnant? Then what? Could you face telling your parents? And his? Can you handle having to decide between an abortion and going through with the pregnancy? Let's say you go through with it, can you handle raising a child? Do you have a job and a car of your own? Can you finish school and provide financially for your child alone?

And where are your own parents? Why are you even being allowed to be so intimate with an older boy? Do your parents even know what's going on?

[justcurious55]

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...nd-545768.html

Wow.so let me get this straight, you and this guy can't even get along without a baby. And you want to hop into bed with him? He'll be long gone if you get pregnant. Maybe even as soon as you have sex with him.

[answerme_tender]

Having sex with this boy will not make him stay as your boyfriend. It will not make all the arguing stop. I am committing from your other post, were you talk about arguing,etc.

Having sex at your age is only going let everyone know that your easy. I don't know anyone who wants a reputation of being easy with the guys, that's just makes it really hard going through school. It doesn't get you anymore boyfriends, it just makes the guys think your not anything more then something to use for sex.

Hopefully you don't get knocked up and have to drop out of school to support your child. Of course at your boyfriends age, he more then likely won't be sticking around. His parents will want him to move on and meet a young lady who isn't so easy!!

You really need to stop and think this through. Sex isn't love, it shouldn't be used to keep a boy interested. At this age, most boys who get a girls pants, aren't thinking about love!!

[mamaof3]

You're too young to have sex. I lost my virginity at 14, and I regret it to this day. You need to be emotionally mature before having sex, and you can't be at 13. Your boyfriend, if he really loves you, will respect you more if you wait until you are completely ready. Besides, how will you feel if you have sex with him and then he tells everyone and breaks up with you?

[redhed35]

The short answer is NO, your not ready.

The reasons are listed in the posts above.

Can I ask where are your parents that you are alone long enough for you and your boyfriend to 'play' around?

To save you from any more confusion,because your body is not mature and the boy is inexperienced,sex will hurt,your right to be scared because it's a huge deal.

Wait until your older.. a lot older.

[emilyrae066]

I mean do you want to end up pregneat . Half the time condoms break & BC isn't fully afective.