[Nayera]

Can I enter a relationship with a man I had dated his brother?

Can I enter a relationship with him after I had slept with his best friend ?

1. I really love him as I slept with his best friend to make him jealous

2. he asked me to became his girl friend but I am afraid that this instance would trouble me much and that he may be a player and I really love him...

3. his brother , who is a friend to me, told me that the one I love said that he would go out with me but won't ask me to marry him

[talaniman]

Can't you see that your being passed around for sex?? Leave all of them alone because your love, and his brother, and his friend see you as a piece of meat to be used, and passed among them. Are you that blind?

Not the kind of woman you take home to mama.

[Cat1864]

I think you are asking the wrong questions.

Try this one: Do I love myself enough to not put myself in a position to be used as toy or back-up plan?

Without going into the situation with his brother, the situation with his friend is bad enough on its own. You used his best friend and allowed yourself to be used to make him jealous. That is not a good way to begin a relationship. Do you really want to be in a relationship with someone who you had to play sex games to get? Do you think he will forget about that part of your behavior and not allow it to influence his thinking or that you won't be tempted to do something equally inadvisable to keep his interest?

What do you want out of a relationship with him? His brother has already told you the limitations he has for it. Wouldn't it be better to move on now instead of adding more pain and hurt by being rejected later?

I think you need to work on your relationship with yourself instead of with a man. Build up your respect for yourself instead of dismantling it. You will be happier and healthier in the future if you take care of your needs instead of your desire. Give yourself a chance to meet a new man who will love you for you and not think of you as temporary playmate.

[martinizing2]

By doing the things you have already done...
Your priorities should be to discover what a relationship really is.

To sleep with his best friend to make him jealous because you love him... does not make sense.

All you have done, as the others have pointed out, is make yourself a target to be used as a sex toy then cast away.

Keep your list as great examples of what not to do... unless pain, heartache, and grief are what you are into.