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TaylaJessyy · Jan 14, 2011, 11:17 PM

I was in a relationship with this guy for almost 2 months. Not a real long time I know, but that is really beside the point. We drove each other absolutley crazy, loved every minute we spent together. The start was brilliant, but something happened between the start and the end where we would just get on eachothers nerves fight and stop talking, then he would act as if nothing ever happened. So it was a relationship where we drove each other crazy but were always having fights. We ended it about a week ago, and we both took it relatively hard and I really want him back. Everyone else is telling me to just move on because me and him were so different, I like going for walks and getting out the house and not always the brightest at times, whereas he was more of the nerd and smart one. But it still hurts. I'm in desperate need of advice. Do I continue trying to get back with him, or just accept it as it is?

adviceishere · Jan 15, 2011, 03:57 AM

If you both want each other back then why not? Myself and my boyfriend are like this too, I call it passion! Your so passionate about each other that everything is magnified from fights to making love, its all to the extreme but you can't get enough of it, your addicted to one another! And I don't see the problem with staying together as long as your both happy and can get over the fights as soon as they start, you trust each other I assume so why not? A few stupid fights is nothing, its healthy to get it out in the open but the making up is even better :) passion, what a great word ;) good luck and do let me know :)

Devorameira · Jan 15, 2011, 06:29 AM

Unless you're willing to work together on your differences, then there's no sense in even attempting to reconcile.

I would be little hesitant though, as your fighting started really early in the relationship (not a good sign). You guys started fighting when most couples are really drawing close, getting to know each other, and are still treating one another quite special.

ironhide262 · Jan 15, 2011, 08:05 AM

Sounds like the both of you just moved too fast! It's great to have all this passion but, at some point things are going to slow down, the fireworks are starting to die down. I don't think you gave enough time to figure each other out and this leads to a lot of confusion when problems arise OR since your relationship is very new, you are just starting to figure each other out leading to differences.

I wouldn't get back together unless you both figure out what the core issue of this arguing is that lead to the breakup. Nothing less than a 100% mutual understanding of your past issues should warrant the both of you thinking about getting together. Even after that you should take it slow otherwise you are going to just crash and burn again. Don't be surprised if you find out that in fact the both of you do have bigger differences than you thought.

talaniman · Jan 15, 2011, 09:33 AM

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I was in a relationship with this guy for almost 2 months. Not a real long time I know, but that is really beside the point

I disagree as I think that is the whole point, as TO MUCH, TO FAST, CRASH AND BURN, as it seems you both are to carried away by your excitement for each other, to stop and think first.

Sometimes we are drawn intensely to people we can only get along with for a limited amount of time because, in other areas we are not as compatible as we would like. Unless we find ways to compromise and both agree, then there will always be as much conflict as there is attraction.

I think you do a lot better realizing that there are other people and other things to do when things like this happen, as you learn more about each other and how to deal with each other. That takes time and may not happen as quickly as you would like, and trying to force things to work only creates more conflict.

Since you both drive each other crazy, I think you step back from each other enough to prevent the conflict, and enjoy each other when there is no conflict. At least that gives you time to figure out what to do about each other, but that's only if he is as willing to go along as you are. He may not be. Then you do have to move on.