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billp57 · Jan 3, 2011, 06:37 PM

Yes they merged should I try reposting my question

talaniman · Jan 3, 2011, 06:41 PM

No please don't, unless you have found another overly sensitive, overbearing, control freak since the pizza girl... er... woman.

ITstudent2006 · Jan 3, 2011, 06:41 PM

Listen Bill. We have all warned you of the controlling nature of this woman from the start. Are you really surprised to see her act like this? I mean after the whole pizza debacle there isn't much more we can say besides RUN. By the sounds of it excluding this woman from your life is in yours and your son's best interest.

talaniman · Jan 3, 2011, 06:45 PM

Originally Posted by ITstudent2006

Listen Bill. We have all warned you of the controlling nature of this woman from the start. Are you really surprised to see her act like this? I mean after the whole pizza debacle there isn't much more we can say besides RUN. By the sounds of it excluding this woman from your life is in yours and your son's best interest.

Darn, fresh out of greenies!! :eek::( Dead on the money though.

billp57 · Jan 3, 2011, 06:53 PM

No she's the only one I'm letting walk all over me. You'd think I'd know better at my age.

Alty · Jan 3, 2011, 07:13 PM

Bill, now that I see the whole picture I have to agree with the others. Run! Run fast. Run hard. Run long. Don't look back. Just keep running.

You do know better at your age, that's why you're here. You just need someone to confirm what you already know. She's dead weight. Cut your loose and concentrate on your son, and finding someone that doesn't try to control everything you do.

You know we're right. I know you do. Read the whole thread now that it's been merged. What advice would you give to you?

Cat1864 · Jan 3, 2011, 07:17 PM

The merged post is in the correct place. We try to keep all posts/questions concerning a situation in the same place. It ensures that you get the right advice for your issues.

Just a tip: You can use the My Answer box at the bottom of each page to respond to the thread. It allows for longer responses and has more options.

You are working with professionals and the school system to do what is best for your child. I would bet that she would not like it if you disagreed with the choices she makes in raising her children. While it may not seem appropriate to her, she isn't the one who lives with him and takes care of him. She isn't the one who talks to his doctors and teachers. She isn't the one who is responsible for what might happen if he were sent to school on an extremely bad day. While you might allow her to walk all over you and trample the boundaries of parenthood, you don't strike me as the type who would allow his child to walk all over him.

Listen to the people who know more about him and his situation than she does. They have his best interests and yours in mind instead of their own.

Good luck to you and your son.

ITstudent2006 · Jan 3, 2011, 07:21 PM

Originally Posted by billp57

No she's the only one I'm letting walk all over me. You'd think I'd know better at my age.

Bill, you seem fully aware of the situation and seem to have a good head about yourself. What's preventing you from doing what needs to be done?

billp57 · Jan 3, 2011, 07:24 PM

OMG thanks so much you spoke word for word what I roll around in my head over and over again, its nice hearing it from an outside source. I've even shared some of these thoughts with her. She won't listen.

Enigma1999 · Jan 3, 2011, 07:27 PM

Bill, your main focus should be your son... not this little b!tch, oh... yeah... with all due respect.

I just want to know one thing, where are her children. She seems to preoccupied with YOURS and your sons life then she is with her own children...

What does that tell you.

billp57 · Jan 3, 2011, 07:33 PM

I think the same thing at times I throw at her what she does wrong raising her own with simularites to mine and she always has an excuse why its OK with her kids.

ITstudent2006 · Jan 3, 2011, 07:35 PM

Bill, you overlooked my question. What is so special about this woman where you can't do what you even acknowledge is the right thing?

Alty · Jan 3, 2011, 07:36 PM

Bill, are you seeing now that this isn't a good situation?

I hope that the feedback you've gotten here has opened your eyes.

You sound like a good man, a caring father. You deserve better than this. So go out and find better.

billp57 · Jan 3, 2011, 07:39 PM

Umm nothing really. Ive been devorced for a little over 3 years and my son was in placement and I was lonely for some adult companionship. My son has been back with me since July and that's when her and I started having problems. Omg I rest my case

Enigma1999 · Jan 3, 2011, 07:42 PM

So you were lonely...

Now you're not.

You have your son.

I rest my case...

ITstudent2006 · Jan 3, 2011, 07:43 PM

I hope you're not feeling overwhelmed by me and my questions for answers. I agree with Alty, you sound like a good guy with a great relationship with your son and this woman seems to be more of an issue then a companion.

The sex/companionship (if applicable) may be amazing, but is it worth the hassle? Is it worth the fighting and conflicts?

I loved my Ford Mustang but it wasn't worth the insurance and maintenance. So I got a Sunfire ;)

Cat1864 · Jan 3, 2011, 07:48 PM

Bill, you used the phrase 'at my age'. No one is too old to make changes. I can understand if you have tried making this relationship work because of trying to keep some stability in your life for both yourself and your son, but, honestly, I see no reason to keep her drama around. Does she have some good points that make it worth it? Is she more stable than it seems here? Do you really enjoy the relationship?

To paraphrase a line from Pippin (a musical): Is the fornicating you're getting worth the fornicating you're getting?

billp57 · Jan 3, 2011, 08:10 PM

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Wow I love Pippen.. "We've got magic to do just for you Weve got miracle plays to play...."

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Not overwhelmed at all just thanks for all the advice

talaniman · Jan 3, 2011, 09:32 PM

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Talaniman Rule - If they can't treat you like you want to be treated, don't mess around with them.

Talaniman Rule- When you allow bad behavior, you will get it.

Talaniman Rule-When you stop looking for love, and do your thing, and enjoy ALL YOUR OPTIONS, AND OPPORTUNITIES, love will find you.

Talaniman Rule-Build a life that you enjoy without a mate and your happiness will attract people who will want to share in it with you.

Talaniman Rule-if they don't like you, forget 'em.

Talaniman Rule-Never let another's ignorance be your wisdom. They don't know you!