[Hockey4life]

There's this girl that I really like, I'm really picky on who I like now, I have been through a lot of bad, stressful relationships with the wrong girl before. I'm a sophomore in high school and this girl that I met freshman year is the most amazing girl I have ever met, I trust her with everything, we talk all the time, late night phone calls that last hours on end, Skype video sessions that last all day at times. She just got out of an 8 month relationship and its been about 2 months since then. I have always been her best friend and about a month ago I learned that she liked me and that she always has, I told her the same. She said she didn't want a relationship but wanted to be close to me, so we had a thing (we called it our 'thingy') until she was ready to have a relationship, and then we would date, anyway it was going great and then I said some stupid stuff after she said something to make me mad but she forgave me and we kept our thingy going, and then she said our thingy was over about a week later and she wanted to stay single and not have to worry, be involved, or anything with an individual guy, but she also told me that she likes me a lot, more than she's liked almost any guy, and that I mean so much to her, more than I know evidently, and that she wants me to wait for her, but she doesn't expect me to because she expects to wait possibly acouple months. I don't know what to do, I want to be with her so bad but waiting months for her? What if she starts to like someone else (she says she won't, but it still worries me) or if she stops liking me (she says she won't but what if she does? Then I would have waited for nothing) it kills me that she isn't mine, I know can be a good boyfriend to her, she has had so many bad boyfriends and I just don't want to lose the opportunity I have with her. Can someone please tell me or give me advice on what I should do and handle this situation I'm in?

[talaniman]

I feel for your dilemma. You have been demoted, from having a thing, to official friendzone. She simply is ready to explore her other options and opportunities, and that's okay. You should be doing the same.

Nothing is forever in high school, be it good or bad, you grow, learn, and change, as you leave on thing for another. She is right, don't wait for her to change back, bur do your thing without her.

You have a world of options and opportunities to explore also. Sometimes changes hurt, but when you accept them, its easier to adjust to them. It still sucks to be demoted though, but its only until you have found your own thing to do.

[adviceishere]

She might be a good girl I could be wrong, but reading what you have just typed isn't a good read! She sounds like she's using you as a safety net! She says she likes you more than anyone so why is it going to take her a few months to get with you? What difference does now and then mean? If she's choosing you then tell her she has to do it now because your not waiting, because unfortunately she wants to see if something better will come along and your being left looking stupid, I'm sorry to sound so harsh, I'm sure you're a really nice guy but there's girl out there that will probably snap you up in a heartbeat and treat you the same as how you'll treat them, don't waste your time waiting and not knowing what her answer is going to be, make her answer it now and to stop being a bull*hitter, either she wants you or she doesn't that not going to take a few months to know, hope you ake the right decsion, good luck

[curlyqisme]

Her saying she's not ready for a relationship is an excuse to saying she's ready for a relationship, she just doesn't want to be in one with you.. waiting for her for months could just lead to dissapointment. She may or may not be over you by then. If she knows what she wants then she'll let you know, but it sounds like she already knows. Tell her your not falling for her excuses.