[tallman44]

Hey everyone. I feel awkward asking for help on this but I'm hoping you'll be able to help me. I'll start from the beginning and try to keep this brief.

I first met this girl at a function for my fraternity and her sorority. A friend of mine from high school introduced me to her and I let her borrow my tie for our Late Night at the Office theme party. I didn't talk to her at all really but definitely was attracted to her.

A few weeks later we ran into each other at a party and talked for awhile and kind of hit it off. We started txting a lot. I think it's crucial at this point to say that she started conversations with me, it was not all me. I asked her to hang out a couple of times and she kept saying no because she was studying (it was getting near the end of the semester). She did say she wanted to hang out and a few of my friends talked to her (without my knowledge) and she told them the same thing.

Finally she came over and we hung out a couple of times. The problem I have is she likes to go out and party a lot and I don't party too often. There is a lot of conflict with her wanting me to go to parties and me wanting her to come over and hang out with me. Anyway, we had hung out a couple of times and everyone was telling me that she liked me. However, I have yet to make a move and my guy friends are talking trash about how I haven't made a move and my girl friends are telling me that she wants me to make a move.

This seems like a good sign and I really do want to make a move. However, school ended and we both had nothing really going on but she kept refusing to hang out. I asked her to ocme over and she said she was always hanging out with friends. She kept teasing me saying she may come over and such.

I'm just so lost at this point. I don't want to turn her off by asking her to hang out too much but at the same time I want to hang out so I can make a move like everyone is telling me to do. I guess I just want to hear what advice you all have.

[Jessicacn]

I am not so sure. Because girls are different. But I feel she thinks she can control your mind and you already give her a sign that she can have your company anytime. So, why does she do so much effort to keep you? Anther possibility is she does not care about you too much and she does not want to stop meeting other opportunities . If she meets you now so often,it is not convenient to meet another guy later. Any way, not good feel of being refused often

[joypulv]

She liked you from the beginning but you two are very different in that one basic and important way, so I don't think it will get off the ground. She wants to hang out with all her friends and she likes partying crowds, and you don't. Simple. Give up. It's better that it happened sooner rather than later.

[talaniman]

Just me, I would party with her for a while, and see what happens. What afraid to leave your comfort zone or something? Get over it, if you want to make your move. Chickens don't get rewarded, just fried and eaten. Don't be a chicken, and don't be afraid to chase a bit. It unrealistic to think a female will always come to you and let you make your moves and real men are not afraid to invade and explore unknown territory to get the girl.

Ever think she wants to see how you deal on the dance floor or see how you act on her turf. Go for it and bust your best move. Don't get sloppy or carried away and keep it cool, calm, and collected, and pay close attention, and keep your mouth shut, and observe, you will learn much.

[Grayfox]

I mean absolutely. If you are interested and she's interested... you have to find it within you to make a move if you really want to. As far as partying.. if that isn't your style and you really don't want to do it (not because of fear mind you) then don't do it. Don't change who you are and what makes you happy for a cute chick. However, if you are just afraid of parties, the setting, etc. you are only doing a disservice to yourself. Ask yourself it there is some legitimate desire to go out and try these out with her, don't ever let fear get in the way. If it goes badly remind yourself it wouldn't have gone any better if you had never made an attempt.