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main123 · Dec 13, 2010, 06:35 AM

If husband doesn't help wife when she really needs help with her work and the deadline is today and she couldn't really do it.. you think the husband is annoyed with her and thinking she's dum and don't want to help her at all in that situation when he helps others? He helped her so many times before but even those times he was annoyed with helping her and called her 'dum' once!

Jake2008 · Dec 13, 2010, 06:54 AM

Not sure what you are talking about. Do you and your husband own a business together, or does he own a business and you work for him? Do you work from home, or in an office?

Can you identify what it is you need help with. Is the workload too great, are you expected to do more than others that also work in the same place as you do, and what have you done to rectify the situation, or should say, tried to do.

Is it causing problems in the marriage too?

main123 · Dec 13, 2010, 07:02 AM

No No I'm a student, we don't own any business or something like that. It was my coursework that I got to give yesterday but I really didn't understand that work and I was so struggling but he done the same course as me before so I asked him to help me with my work as he done before for my other three coursework, but he didn't help me when I was struggling plus I was so ill. He doesn't even care about me and when I was kept telling him I couldn't do it I couldn't do it all he said is 'ok sleep'. It seems like he hate helping me because maybe he feel like he's doing all my work? I don't understand.

Jake2008 · Dec 13, 2010, 09:30 AM

OK, thanks for making that clearer to understand.

There could be many reasons he doesn't want to help you. Just because he took the course himself, he may have hated the work, and struggled with it himself. It could be that he's finished the courses, and doesn't want to re-live the work, and re-do the work, over again, with you. He may just not have the patience it takes to teach something. He may not want to encourage you to rely on him, when he knows you can do the work on your own, without needing him to help in the first place. He might just want you to have the satifaction of completing the course work under your own steam, like he did.

With what you see as the negative comments, such as 'you're dumb', could be more said out of either frustration, or he may think that if he puts you off enough you'll stop asking him to help you.

If I were you, find somebody who is taking this course at the same time you are, or, seek assistance through the course instructor. You can also ask through the instructor for a tutor in some cases, who will help you through the material for a small fee. In other words, my advice is to encourage you to forget about getting help from your husband, and actively seek help through different avenues.

Good luck.

Devorameira · Dec 13, 2010, 02:50 PM

Jake2008 is right. I'm a college grad, but wouldn't be able to help anyone out with chemistry or math. Not that I wouldn't like to, just that I learned things for the time being mainly for tests, and now I've forgotten what I learned.

If you struggle through, why not use a tutor for the courses you're having trouble with?