[kelly2]

helllo.. I was in long distance relationship with my love from year 2009.. it was so beautiful relationship.means he was mad about me.. and cares me a lot.. he used to share his all things happened to him in day or his life with me.. I always felt that I am so lucky that I got him.. we meet 4 5 times in a year.but at the end of year we started fighting a lot because I ask him to meet me.. but always our plans fails at the end.. and in my mind I always do suspicion about him that why he don't come to meet me?
Just because of this thing we had a worst fight in the last of the year.and I abused him so much because he was wrong.but then I also felt sorry for that.. but then after relation become little bit changed.. due to such fights he broke up with me one day after an year.. I pursued him so much for one month.. but he didn't come back.after I applied no contact rule for more than one month.and he called me.but I didn't reply.he did message to me next month.. still I didn't reply.. then after 2 months I replied to him.he talked to me differntly.. he was thinking that I will beg and cry as I did last time.but when my attitude was different.he proposed for good friends.but I refused.then he said I really miss our sex chat and I want to do sex with you only.I never been physical with him.and I donot have physical relations with him.when he said me that thing I abused him badly.and I said you should me ashmaed of yourself.instead of feeling sorry,you are saying this bull****?
Then he said what I can do.I donot have any interest in any girl other than you.so I didn't reply.at the same night,he said me sorry and asked for other chance.I gave him.now our relation is fine.. but it is not as good as it was before.. means firstly when we had fights,he could never spend a day without me.but now he pursue me after 2 3 days.and when he contact he ask for sex chat .when I become angry at this,then he used to say that I wa getting mad for you so did message.then we start talking each other normally.he says that he has only sexual feeling for me only.that is why he always misses me when he feels seduced.and he says you should take this thing in a positive way.but when there is fight,again the same thing happens.now I want to know why he contacts me in long distance relation.it has 1 year been passed since we met last time.he also know well that I will never do sex with him before marriage.then why he is doing so and contact me again and again?
If he really do loves me why he donot presue me on the same day.where he get lost for few days?do he may have other girlfriend?
He said that 'i swear to my parents that I donot have any other girl other than you.'!
I am not getting what to do?continue my relation with him or not?or I just do useless suspicion on him.why he is not like before?

[flowerchildfala]

I think you need to talk to him and tell him to stop pressuring you for sex because you have told him several times no and he needs to respect that, if he doesn't then leave him! Also you need to trust him. Why do you not trust him? Has he done something?

[kelly2]

No.. he always pursue me for sex chat but never ask me for sex in real.. because he said that he will never do anything for enjoyment sake that will hurt me in the future.. but my problem is when he contact me after our fight means after 3 -4 days,he first talk about this chat only.he used to say that he was missing me so much.. and I want him to miss me because of other things and memories of mine.not this.. can he be with some other girl? why then he contact me just again and again..? I don't think so that for doing that chat he can do this..

[kelly2]

No.. he always pursue me for sex chat but never ask me for sex in real.. because he said that he will never do anything for enjoyment sake that will hurt me in the future.. but my problem is when he contact me after our fight means after 3 -4 days,he first talk about this chat only.he used to say that he was missing me so much.. and I want him to miss me because of other things and memories of mine.not this.. can he be with some other girl? why then he contact me just again and again..? I don't think so that for doing that chat he can do this..