[littleapple]

It may seem like a simple question but it really gets me down, I have so many male friends, female as well. But no one I meet seems to want to have a relationship that goes beyond friendship. I would be OK if it was just one or two guys but it seems every guy I know only wants to be friends. I am sick of feeling like I'm not worth it. I am good looking, I'm kind, I am not a full on person nor am I to shy, I like to do my own thing and I like to socialise as well, I'm me, all I can think is 'me' isn't worth it. I can't play games with people's heads or pretend to be what I'm not to get guys and the woman I know who are in relationships do. (I'm not saying all women do, just the ones I know) even though they end up breaking up when the truth comes out. Most of the guys I know fall for the games every time but end up hurt in the end. (again only saying this about the guys I know not guys in general) OK sorry for the rant I just want to know if anyone else is gong through this or some one can et me know what the hell is going on inside guys minds. Do I need to become a ***** to get a guy? Why am I everyone's friend and no one's girlfriend?

[Cat1864]

Continue to be yourself. It may be cliché but it is true: You just haven't met the right one for you.

Do you ever ask guys out? Why not?

I went through it myself. I rarely, if ever, dated and was more about making friends. I really was not looking for love or a relationship when I met my, now, husband. It was a relationship that came out of the blue so I do know that if you keep an open mind and don't get caught up in looking for a certain type, romance can fall into your lap.

Good luck and have fun.

[littleapple]

Thank you Cat1864, I know it's cliché I've said it myself to friends,just no fun being myself by myself lol. Thank you so much for the encouragement and letting me know I'm not the only one who has been through this.

[littleapple]

Also forgot to answer your question, Yes I have asked guys out,I tend to get one of three answers 'I am not looking for anything', 'I don't know what I want' and 'I don't want to ruin the friendship' all fair and honest answers but not nice.

[Cat1864]

Don't let those responses get you down or discourage you. Think about how many times guys hear them. ;)

[I wish]

Just keep meeting new people. The more people you meet, the more chances you have of meeting someone special.

I do suggest online dating. Of course screen out the guys that you're not interested in, but at least through online dating you know that the other person is looking for a possible romantic relationship as well. The new people you meet in person might not be looking or might already be taken anyway.