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magentasweets · Dec 6, 2010, 04:54 PM

OK so I like this guy and he's two years older now I know that's not that bad, but the problem is that we live in different towns and he may be going off to university soon, but we have so much in common and we get along so well, but I don't know how I'm suppose to have a relationship with them when I barely see them. What do I do? Forget about him or try and keep up a long distance relationship?

ironhide262 · Dec 6, 2010, 05:30 PM

Take it from me... long distance relationships are extremely hard.

I'm not sure how long you have been going out together. But, lets face facts, you both are young and soon heading off to school with all that it entails, making big plans for you future ( the both of you). Your relationship has to be very strong to survive all the trials that it would take to stay together in a senario where you are both apart and going to school. I urge you to stop and think about how you want your future to take shape... his will more than likely be very different.

The fact is the long distance relationships are not really proper relationships... they are an interim solution until you are back together. It is extremely hard to maintain. There are absolutely no guarantees, however much you love each other. I will not go as far to say that LDR's don't work however, at the age and the dynamic time the both of you are at I would not at all recommend it.

I think that the both of you should understand that there are big changes ahead and simply look at the reality of the situation. Which is that your school and life plans need to be a priority and they will in the end anyway. Sorry... I know I am not writing the things you want to hear but, ask anyone who has been through a LDR and they will tell you it is extremely difficult. Best of luck!

talaniman · Dec 7, 2010, 08:24 AM

Any relationship depends on what the partners decide to do with it. That's why you communicate, and try to see if you are on the same page, or can get on the same page, and work together to resolve this issue. Talk about it, and express your hopes, and fears with your partner.

answerme_tender · Dec 7, 2010, 08:36 AM

If you haven't been involved that long with him, then I would say "NO". Maybe that is just to blunt of an answer, but come on reality is that most of these long distance don't work out even for those people who have been in a long time relationship to begin with.

Most relationships don't last when one or another go off to College, there are so many changes that are going on in their individual lives that they just don't have time.

I don't mean to be negative, but I have seen so many people on here mourning the loss of their relationship because they couldn't keep it together no matter how much time,effort, love they have put into it. If you haven't put all that much of yourself into this relationship and you can remove yourself without having to go through such heartache like they have then it was worth being this blunt!! Its up to you, I wish you well on either choice.