[em_111]

I hate the way I look. I always have been. A few months ago I started a new college, even with people I know, and I still don't want to go everyday out of what people will think of me.

I have had random people in the street insult me because of how I look and it makes it really hard to gain confidence.

I feel really insecure around new people and it makes it really hard to make new friends. And to talk to people. So I am really shy. And I always worry about what people think of me.

despite all that, I am in a 2 year realationship with someone I love, and my insecurities often cause arguments and I really don't want to loose him .

can someone help ?

[Lanist57]

You say you are around people you know such as friends and a boyfriend. Are these people insulting your appearance as well? If so, you should look into getting involved with a new group of people. If not, then you should lean on them for support. Do you have a good girlfriend who loves to shop? Maybe another who is good with makeup? Maybe a few extra bucks to spend to go to a salon for a makeover? Take advantage of these ideas. Do things to make you feel more comfortable with yourself. Take up a sport to stay active and keep in shape. And remember... when someone loves you, they see your beauty... even if you don't see your own. So, try to not let your insecurities affect your relationships. Also, people who carry themselves with confidence will be seen as attractive even if they aren't the prettiest person alive. Those who let their insecurities get the best of them look more unattractive to others. Sweetie... I would also suggest a school counselor or a church pastor you can talk to regularly.

[talaniman]

Most 16 year olds are insecure about one thing or another, and that's normal. Just look at what good things that you have in your life, like a girl friend, and appreciate those good things, and ignore the bad.

Do what makes you happy, and just put your best foot forward as happy people are always attractive, so looks don't matter to some, just the shallow and ignorant. You never let others define you, and should know by now the rude people who make insulting comments usually hate themselves, and are highly the jealous types. Pity them, and ignore them.

[em_111]

No they're not, but I often believe I cannot trust them; although I probably can. I do goshopping a lot and I often get my hair done and changed but it never seems to be how I wanted it to look, although people still think it looks good.
We don't have any counselors in college and I don't go to church.

I am generally a happy person, its just hard for insults not to get you down

[talaniman]

Just curious as to who these people are that insult you? I can't see random strangers just doing it, but sounds like a bully, and their friends.

[em_111]

it is often random strangers. I was walking along with my boyfriend not that long ago and two lads starting insulting me about having bad skin, neither of us knew who they were.
There was several people I knew in school who used to imitate me, etc. but it doesn't happen as often anymore.