[johnwilson]

So me and this guy met about three months ago. Know its early and was the wrong move but we had sex like after a month of talking. thought it was just going to be one of those flings, but then we ended up talking. We have been talking well enough and he seems interested. I brought up a relationship but he says he does cannot do that right now because of time issues but that we are boos and exclusive. I am honestly fine with this for now because I know it is early and would give him time to change his mind or else I am out. Now the problem started when we were to get together for the third time. He was to let me know what was happening and he didn't so I got mad and let him know how I felt then I ignored him. He kept eventually asked if he could make it up to me the next weekend and I told him no. We spoke and I pretty much let him know I do not have time for games and he convinced me it was not a game but he got caught up with being sick, work and training so I said that's no excuse but eventually let it go. Now like Thursday I let him know that I would be available this weekend and could spend the weekend with me but now he told me that he can't because of test the next week. I got so mad because again I was thinking he is playing games. We spoke and he was like sorry but he did not know they were coming up and stuff, yet still I know he is partying tonight. He seems sooo cool and into me sometimes, he even kisses me in front of all his friends who I met and am very cool with. He seems so concerned when I am upset and is actually willing and interested to talk about where this is going. My problem is I do not get that he is excited to see me or is he really just busy. Please help me :( the last time we saw each other was almost a month ago and we went to a concert then party together.

[Devorameira]

Quit bugging him. Seems to me like he's not exactly treating you with any respect.

Since it's a really young relationship that seems to be based mainly on sex, I would end the frustration by moving on.

[flowerchildfala]

When a guy say's that he doesn't want a commitment or "relationship", that's what he means and it's unlikely he will change his mind! Girls stay because they think he will change his mind, but they hardly do and you end up hrt. I've been in this situation and so have a lot of my friends and hun, when a guy says this, walk away unless your OK with just a fling and nothing serious. Also how can you be exclusive and his boo if your not in a relationship? I don't know enough about him but he seems like he's bad news! I know this probably isn't what you wanted to hear but that's what I'm getting from your story! Also he's blown you off two times now, a guy that's interested doesn't do that! I see a player! In this guy! Back off and make him chase you, if he's interested in you then he will come too you and if he just wants you for pleasure then he won't bother to work hard!

[talaniman]

You are trying much to hard to make something built on sex into something more. This is going no place fast so leave the guy alone, and don't be available to be his exclusive piece of tail.

If you don't want to be a friend with benefits, then don't.