[JennaBean]

Ok I've been with this guy for about a month. We sleep next to each other, mess around, do other things but won't have sex with me. He talks like he wants to and does things that show he wants to but he won't actually make the move. Sometimes well be just about to and hell just stop... Why? Is he scared? He also says he doesn't masterbate is it possible that he's just the rare exception of men that aren't that into sex?

[BrandonGT]

Well, this could go a couple of ways.
Does he get erections? That can eliminate erectile dysfunction right there. If that's not the problem, he probably just has a lot of issues and is very uncomfortable for some reason or another. Catholics can have a hard time overcoming "catholic guilt". I think you need to have a very open, honest discussion and find out what the problem is.

[Cat1864]

How old are both of you?

Age helps determine what factors might be affecting the relationship and libidos.

[Anono1234]

I remember being young It was pretty scary, I mean you would never really admit that to your friends, but having full-on sex for the first time is a big deal. Guys worry a fair bit about their performance. Girls probably wouldn't realise just how nervous we get, maybe they do, we want to seem like pros. The worst thing that can happen is for a girl to be disappointed. We are tools! We want to feel useful! If we fail at doing manly stuff, like sex, it can be a big didn't in our self-esteem. It can lead to future performance anxiety. Its real! Its like the males version of saying that girl is fat, y'know?

Maybe he kind of doesn't want to lose his "intercourse" virginity? I'm not sure. I think when sex is fun its great, if its serious its kind of anxious.
Guys watch porn too, how much porn is actually very serious? None
Makes me laugh, But that's good, because happy feelings mean fun, fun means fun sex, fun sex creates a positive mental association.
A positive mental association is paramount to good sex, great relationships can be enriched by good sex.

This bit doesn't relate to you but for others maybe I thought I would say it:
Its just like when your boyfriend suprises you with lillies, he doesn't get it, but you do.
Like you don't get why he loves it when you wear red patent heels to bed.
I suppose when you slowly get bored of wearing the heels to bed the lilies with stop turning up too.
Its weird. Not all girls like lilies, not all guys red patent heels. But most people will have a kink, maybe you need explore something like that.

[Cat1864]

Please, no more Answers until JennaBean gives her age.

This is the Adult Sexuality Board and we have to be very careful about the age of posters in this area.