[new77]

Hi, I hope someone's opinion will help me to see clear the things...
I was in a very good relationship, the man was planing family with me, we moved on very fast, was great... We had one issue according him, and that is my attitude. I became angry toward him couple of times, and I did not expect that he would became so hurt. He completely became insane the first time, I was so confused, I apologized, cried, we cried together... He told me he had issues with his dad when he was small and is too sensitive on "anger". This thing somehow was dragging in our relation, I felt... beside he was saying it was forgotten. We continued to love each other had good time. Then, second time I did it again, I said something, but I do believe it was like every other normal person going nuts sometimes... I knew I would regret, but before I could say anything, he said he wants to go out of the relationship, that;s it. I was hurt and did not know what happened and took it as my fault, however said, OK.. This happened at time when I lost my father, so I can not explain how difficult was for me, and I could not believe my boyfriend is so... with no compassion. But I could not let it go and told him to call me, he called... he said talk please, I could not and hanged up. Then I called and like that, we stayed in touch for a month, chatting, talking just casual things. Then after a month, I brought up the question of the break up and he freaked out.. then I stopped talking to him for a while, and after that said it's the best we really break up. However I asked him after a week just how is he doing and he replies, but does not initiate a talk. I still care about him, I am confused. Finally few days ago (2 months after) I wrote him a letter telling him how much he means to me and that;s all. Now plan to see if he initiates a talk in decent time I would talk to him, if not I will move on. Sometimes I feel sorry for him, sometimes I feel like I want to have calm talk about his issue (which he made to be mine at the time of the break up :-/). I do not understand anything. Btw we are not kids, he is 37 me 33, we were together 5 months. Thanks for any opinion.

[talaniman]

I would leave this alone, as what happened has happened, and the issues between you are to great, and he is unwilling to deal with it. That will never work, and its best to leave him completely alone, and heal.

[Devorameira]

You really have no choice except to move on. It's hard to say what's going on in his head, but he's made it obvious that it's over. Move on and let it go.

[answerme_tender]

Do you really want to walk around on egg shells for the rest of your life. What about children, if they throw a tantrum, is he just going to delete them from his life. This man has some issues that he needs to work out. He cannot handle any type of conflict in his life. Unfortunately that's just isn't reality. There are ups and downs in every aspects of life.

You need to stop all contact. Get on with your life. Meet some new people, get into some classes. Remember not matter how much you love a person, you CANNOT CHANGE them!!

[new77]

Thank you for your comments and time. I will think about what you are saying, may be valuable. It is good to think a bit from that point of view too.