[Ilovehimandhim]

So about a couple months ago my boyfriend and I broke up. He hid that he was smoking and I hid that I had cheated. Since then we've tried getting back together but I always reject him. We have a rollercoaster of a relationship. We met last April and it's October. I've tried getting over him, even having a couple relationships. But in the end we are both falling for each other. And lately he's been ignoring me.
Recently I've started having feelings for a friend of mine. He makes me laugh and he shows so much affection and attention. And my ex heard about this and told me that he likes my ex best friend. I don't know if he's lying but I doubt it considering he told all his friends who are my friends too. I love my ex though it's been so long since we were together. So I need help. What should I do: keep liking the guy who may not like me anymore or the guy I do like who showers me with love and affection?

[beachloverjohn]

What makes you think you have this choice. I mean your ex likes your ex best friend, and the guy you like now is showering you because he knows you really like someone else. He's just trying to win you over. You don't know this, but you haven't met the best guy for you yet. You act like you have to make a choice between these two, when there are millions of other guys out there. Personally I'm rooting for the ex, because the other guy sounds like to nice of a guy, and I don't think you will treat him right.

[mmresd]

Several problems here:
1. You two have broken up already, start moving on and let him be with whoever he wants to be with, and you do as you please.
2. You cheated on him and you are rejecting him? That's not the way it works, out of respect for both of you, you should leave him completely and give him the space he needs to makes decisions for himself (smoking doesn't even compare to cheating by the way!).
3. If you have found someone who is showing you affection and attention and treats you right, then give him a chance at being something with you, after all, he might grow on you.
4. Only do #3 when you are completely over your last boyfriend, if not you will end up betraying the affection and attention mentioned because you will be using him as your rebound.
5. You question: "What should I do: keep liking the guy who may not like me anymore or the guy I do like who showers me with love and affection?" The answer should be pretty easy: the second!

Good Luck,

Javi

[answerme_tender]

I think you need to stay single until you learn what a relationship means. You cheated on ex-boyfriend that you love so much, while still with him. You have rejected him when he tries to get back together. Then you move on to new guy, and instead of being in a relationship with just him, you are thinking about ex-boyfriend and what he is doing, who he is doing it with.

You really need to mature to understand that someone's emotions are real, not just something that you can play with. A relationship is not always easy, but you have a choice to either be in one or not. Remember what goes around usually comes back around in the end!