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hellylicious · Oct 23, 2010, 05:32 PM

Hi, Me and my boyfriend have ben together for 2 years now. I am 22 and he is 33. When we first got together we were having sex every single time we saw each other - I suppose as all new couples do! Then we started having it about 3 - times a week. The past 2 months though I've noticed we haven't had it - I think in a month we have had sex once! Im not the confident or person when it comes to my body but Im not boreing in the bedroom department. Im just not sure what it is. Has he gone off me? & to be honest it is not like him not to want sex - he practically used to beg!! Im confused about it but I feel embarrassed about asking him and about bringing the subject up as he may just laugh it off? Not sure what to do or why he's just not interested anymore? Can anyone help? Xx

shazamataz · Oct 23, 2010, 05:58 PM

Is there anything going on at home that could be stressing him out?
More hours at work, family issues, financial stress?

Little things can add up and if there is something playing on your mind it can take a big toll on your sex life.

My OH is similar, practically begs for sex most of the time but we hit a rough patch a few months back and I noticed he just didn't seem interested at all. I never asked him about it but now that things are back on track our sex life has picked up again.

I would sit down and talk to him about it, ask him how he is feeling, I wish I had have done that and tried to be more supportive.
He may laugh it off as you said but he may actually want to discuss it and just doesn't know how to bring it up just like you.

hellylicious · Oct 25, 2010, 02:13 AM

Thanks for your answer shazamataz. You were right! I spoke to my friend about it and she said her and her partner have been through the same thing - it might just be something that happens to everyone now & then but things are completely normal.

There wasn't any reason for this - he said he thought I didn't want sex. I think we got are wires mixed up lol.

Thanks for your help though its much appreciated and work very well! Talking really does get you places hehe.

Marriage is a huge commitment. I am 22, and recently got made redundant from my job, I now work part time which is a hugggge cut in my money so can't afford to get married. The past 2 years has been amazing for us, I really don't think there is a 'got to have sex "X" amount of sex' whilst in a relationship or marriage.