[Bandit_Love]

We've been together for a year and a half. Engaged. We had our day to day issues but for the most part were a happy couple.. So I thought. (We also lived together) For the past few months I've been feeling like our relationship were being attacked by someone in efforts to break us up. First there were calls to him from his cousin that NEVER met me, saying horrible things about me. From me being a prostitute to me setting people up to get robbed. Then he would get caught up in his lies and finally my boyfriend had enough and cursed him out. Those phone calls stopped. Then a mysterious message on MY PARENTS answering machine saying some horrible things about me, and the caller ID showed that the call was made from my boyfriends cell phone while the whole time me and him were at home TOGETHER.. Now all of the sudden last Friday while I was at work I got a call from him asking me if there's anything in my past that I haven't came clean about? He said that the outside source had told him something so bad that he's embarrassed to be with me. When I ask him what is it and who said it, he avoids the subject and beats around the bush. After numerious efforts for me trying to get to the bottom of this "rumor" I had finally gave up because I felt my efforts were worthless. Bottome line, he broke up with me. So today I moved out and he didn't try to stop me. I even asked him if he sure that's what he wanted. A few hours later I started getting text messages from him telling me that he would always love me and that I'm the love of his life. So on So on. I'm really confused, I miss him and love him a lot. But feel so hurt by all this that I don't feel like I can ever let him back in my life. I feel like a fool and my pride wants him to regret this decission but not ever get another chance at hurting me even thou I want him to be so close so soon, Help.

[beachloverjohn]

This guy decided to break up with you because someone is saying bad things about you. Well there's a real man. Without any proof at all, decides you are a liar, dishonest, horrible person. This story sounds ridiculous. If he really loved you, he would never break up with you because of these unfounded rumors. If all it took was some jerks out there talking trash about you, then forget this guy. He's about as dependable as a broken clock. I think he already had some commitment issues and needed an excuse.

[mystific]

Now that he's made the break it might be interesting to find out what it was that broke the camels back or you turn the other cheek and let it be.

Obviously he pandered to the continual barrage of vindictive, malicious calls made by "a friend" about you and it got too much.

In my mind I'd like to right a wrong. But given that he didn't give you the opportunity (whether you did or didn't do the things you were accused of) to right yourself... well good riddance to him.

If I was engaged and my fiancé proclaimed to love me, enough to spend the rest of his life with me, then I'd expect him to hear me out with my explanations, if any were necessary. In saying that, what had happened in the past stays there. You can't rewrite history and you can't keep paying for it either.

[Dstny618]

Something's not right, but the bottom line is that he can't even tell you the problem. That doesn't make sense. He should respect you enough to tell you what he's heard and at least hear you out. I know you are hurt, but maybe this is for the best. You are going to miss him, but that won't last forever. You don't need someone who will let a rumor make up their mind about you.

[talaniman]

Do you realize how lucky you are? No because your hurt. You should be darned mad that he would insult you by breaking up for no reason he can say, on the word of an unknown 3rd party. You are so lucky this never got to marriage.