[BrOkEn_StAr]

But do you think its easy?? It's the hardest thing I ever had :(

[DoulaLC]

How is he making you feel good when he tells you that he can't forgive you and doesn't trust you? How does that make you feel safe and good about yourself?

You have given him complete control over how you feel about yourself and your situation.

You need to feel good on your own before you can be in a healthy relationship. This sounds very one sided with him being in the lead. Maybe I have misinterpreted things, but I get the impression that if he said jump you would ask him how high!

You will get over him... no one says it will be easy, but as you get out with friends and family, keep yourself busy and stop dwelling on him so much, you will probably start to see how much control you have given him and how clingy and dependent you have become.

[BrOkEn_StAr]

Hmmmm OK I breake up with my boyfriend and it because some people told him that I like guys what they mean by that is that I like them I like to talk to them I like to go out with them and I only like to be with them... but I'm not like that they told him that I'm a ***** but I'm not and I need to prove it to him I need to prove that I'm not like what they said about me but I don't know how to I need to prove it to him not because I love him but because I need to make him to be shamed because he believe in what they said and I didn't believe in me and now I need to prove it to him but I don't know how to please I need someone to tell me a way that I can prove it please!! :(

[Eileen G]

It's almost impossible to prove a negative. What are you going to do, drag every boy you've ever met in front of your boyfriend and get them to say you are not a slut?

Honestly, what you need is a better boyfriend, one who will believe you and not need you to prove yourself to him all the time. He is obviously insecure and paranoid. Even if you somehow "proved" to him that you are a nice girl, he will still have doubts and will keep looking for evidence that you are messing around with other boys.

Look for someone who accepts you as you are, and who trusts you without reservation.

[Cat1864]

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The best thing you can do is leave him alone. It doesn't matter what he thinks and even if you could get him to admit he was wrong, it wouldn't change what everyone else is apparently saying.

Trying to hurt him because you are hurting doesn't help anything. It only prolongs the pain that you are experiencing.

You need to let him, his opinions, the relationship, all methods of contact, etc. go and concentrate on healing yourself.

Get involved in things that help you feel good about yourself. Let yourself move forward. Give yourself productive and healthy ways to work through the pain. Planning revenge is not healthy.

[beachloverjohn]

If you are involved with someone that doesn't trust you or believe you, then you are wasting your time with him. Every little thing that happens will cause him to mistrust you. What do you want to do, walk around attached to a lie detector? He will always question you, so make a clean start with someone else, and try to always be honest with him.

[DoulaLC]

BrOkEn_StAr... you really do need to move on from this guy. You have said before that he has told you that he doesn't trust you; that he won't ever forgive you. Why do you continue to beat yourself up over this?

I know you have feelings for him; you think he is the love of your life, but you have to step back and look at what your relationship has really been like.

Do you really want to continue feeling that you need to prove yourself to him over everything you do? Do you want to be with someone who takes other people's words over yours? Be with someone who doesn't trust you?

This is not love... it is immaturity and manipulation. You have put him up on some kind of pedistal thinking he is so wonderful and that you can't live without him, but you can!

Don't you deserve better than what you have been getting? If you are thinking this is a good relationship, you are headed for continued heartache, frustration, anxiety, disappointment, and tears.

Walk away with some dignity left. Do not contact him, do not associate with these people who told him these things about you. Do not respond to him in any way. He made his decision to leave, and it is the best thing he could have done for you because now you are free to meet someone who will treat you with respect, kindness, and consideration. Who will show you what a real boyfriend should be like. Don't settle for anything less!

[BrOkEn_StAr]

I know but I want to make everyone shamed because of what they said I need to prove it to him before ii move on

[BrOkEn_StAr]

Will I am honest but I need to prove it to him that I'm not like what he said :(

[Cat1864]

Broken_Star, the only way you can prove anything is by living your life the way you know you should.

He didn't listen before you broke up so there is no reason to believe he will listen now, There is every reason to believe he will continue to think what he wants and will see anything and everything you do as proof he is correct.

You can't make people believe anything they don't want to believe. Some people hold on to what they know are falsehoods or incorrect facts just because they don't want to admit they were ever wrong or because they want to cause trouble.

Get involved in activities that help you feel better about yourself. Extra-curricular activities likes clubs, sports, volunteering, etc. can help occupy your mind and body giving you more confidence and inner-strength. Being a stronger person can go a long ways toward changing what people say about you.

[BrOkEn_StAr]

Hmmmmmmm I am doing a business course administration :(

[Fr_Chuck]

Well I think they use English in Australia, so complete sentences, periods, a few capitol letters, may help make more sense.

But you can't prove something to anyone that wants to believe it. You merely live your life and show you are not, but not being like what they say. But often the harder we try to prove something to someone, the more it will make us seem guilty,

And no you do not "HAVE" to prove anything to anybody. You want to prove it to him either to hurt him for leaving you, or some other reason.

[Eileen G]

Live your life with dignity, find someone who believes you without needing constant reassurance and proof, and stop worrying about what he thinks. I know it's tempting to find some way to rub his nose in his mistake, but the truth is that people believe what they want to believe, and if he thinks that girls tell lies (and I'm willing to bet that he does think that, it's not just you he doubts) then you are never going to change that.

Be the One Who Got Away, the one that makes him question himself.

[DoulaLC]

>>>>>>I know but I want to make everyone shamed because of what they said I need to prove it to him before ii move on


They are not worth your time or energy. They aren't your friends, he is no longer your boyfriend.

Right now, since it is fresh, it is difficult not to focus on it, but before long it won't matter to you what they think because you will have moved on.

[talaniman]

Keep beating your head into a wall, and let me know when it hurts.