[hypeguy]

I've been with my gal for over 5yrs, never broke up but we have had our ups and downs.
She works at a accounting firms where a local corner shop man always comes over to the firm to chill as he knows the owners. She told me he tried making a pass at her and she blew him off twice. He tried different techniques as in your like a sister to me and still tried to make a pass (freak I no). Basically his a smooth talker and gets his way, apparently. Ino all this because my gal told me he said that to her. What's got me naggin is I mustve said for a joke I'm going to beat him up, and she said no my jobs on the line then she changed her statement to okay but not when I'm working or when the firm moves. Also she told me he likes to woo younger girs becoz there easy. And I said his scum and she kind of defended him in the sense that the younger girls ask for it so they deserve it. That's just to fishy to me. Another thing is when she on lunch break she puts the phone down saying she going to the chippy to eat with her colleagues (wer he works). How I'm I suppose to catch her out. She also has these weird mood swings that don't make sense and blames me for the start of an argument, when its her. Also its seem when she wants to do some itimate stuff she's on full throttle for a couple of days straight then dead for a couple of days when I want somfin. Please help its driving me nuts!!

[answerme_tender]

Listen you either trust her or you don't. If your jealous of this guy, maybe you need to take a step back and take a close look at yourself. What would he have to offer her that you don't? Is there something about yourself that needs to be improved. She doesn't need your approval on where she and her co-workers go for lunch, she is a grown woman and she alone makes those choices. I wouldn't play the he-man routine, it could give her the impression that you don't trust her and might lead her to re-consider your relationship. Just let her know how much you love her and want to make this work. Then listen to her and what she wants.

[Devorameira]

Looks to me like she's been up-front with you. If she was interested in him, she would have kept his actions and her lunches to herself.

Guess she just thought you were close enough to talk to about things going on at work and in her life. Obviously she was wrong on that one.

It seems to me like you're making a mountain out of a molehill. If you genuinely feel like you can't trust her, then you need to move on.

[hypeguy]

Thanks 4 your reply mayb I am paranoid but I forgot to add the fact she goes sleep early now using the excuse I'm tired, tenish and a week before for the past year she went sleep after 11 to midnight. Also when I confrnt her about other things she just asks straight away why do you think I'm lyin when I don't acuse her of anything. Also she's always complaining that she wants to wear more up to date fashion clothes which I can understand however why would you need to, out of the blue. She sees me once a week and she using the xcuse she doing it for me so I don't look at other girls. That don't make sense

[hypeguy]

Thanks for the reply and help I've put a bit more detail please read I'm sure it would change your mind a bit I'm hoping it don't but I just got a gut feeling I

[hypeguy]

Thanks for the reply and help I've put a bit more detail please read I'm sure it would change your mind a bit I'm hoping it don't but I just got a gut feeling I'm more on the track

[answerme_tender]

Just remember you are suppose to be the boyfriend,lover, and most important her best friend. You are NOT her parent, she doesn't need to give excuses as why she wants to go bed earlier, heck maybe she is tired ever thought of that. You are interegating her more like a parent would a teen age child then a grown woman. Remember a relationship is give and take, not her reassuring you or you controlling the relationship.
Bottom line is Hypeguy, you can only really show her how much you love her and prove that your man enough to be able to accept what may be. No judging, no control, just mature acceptance. Hopefully she will see that! Good luck