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btbw76 · Oct 3, 2010, 03:17 PM

OK so me and my girlfriend have been dating for 2 years. We did everything together and always hung out. We were both happy, but last week we got into a huge argument and honestly I said some very hurtful things to her. After that she said she wanted a break, but she loved me and wanted to get back together soon. I was crushed so I called her almost everyday crying and pleading.(mistake?) She originally told me the break would be over in just a few days but its been a week and I just need to know what to do to end the break. We still hangout almost every other day. What should I do to hurry things along? I can't stand it and I don't know what to do. Tmrw is her birthday and she wants to hangout. I'm about to go get her a card. Should the card be sweet? I was planning on filling it with how much I lover her. I don't know if that's a good move or not?

Cat1864 · Oct 3, 2010, 03:38 PM

It sounds like you need to give her a little room to think and breathe. The more you push her to officially be together, the more she will resist the pressure. Keep hanging out with her and don't try to press for more. Listen more to her and less to the voice that is telling you to panic and cling to her.

A nice card maybe saying "I love you" would be better than pouring your heart out all over the place. Spend time together and let the relationship build back up at its own pace.

Do you have any interests outside the relationship? Do you hang out with your other friends so that she isn't the only person you spend time with?

btbw76 · Oct 3, 2010, 04:02 PM

Well I do but she would always come with me. So its different now when she's not there.

Devorameira · Oct 4, 2010, 05:42 AM

I would leave her alone and let her sort out her feelings. Definitely quit whining, crying and begging.

I can see that you just want her back in your life right now at any cost, but that if she isn't sure about the relationship and your crying and whining makes her feel guilty, she may just come back for all the wrong reasons. If you force her back out of guilt, then you'll probably be facing a true break-up down the road.

The best thing would probably be to not contact her at all. Give her the space and time to actually evaluate your relationship and possible start missing you.

talaniman · Oct 4, 2010, 08:44 AM

How old are you? Personally I don't hang out with females that dump me, never did. Never will. A break is a break up. That means your free to do your thing, and she can celebrate her birthday any way she wants. No love is worth your dignity, and self respect, now give her what she ask for. That's why I ask your age, because you may not be old enough to understand the concept of dignity, and self respect or you wouldn't cry and plead to her. As you see that prolonged your misery.

You want to end this break, leave her alone, and do your own thing. She blew it, she should be the one suffering, not you.

Showme_urmove · Oct 7, 2010, 08:50 PM

Can't say it better then that!

Cat1864 · Oct 8, 2010, 04:21 AM

I get the impression that 'break' might have been the wrong term and that she should have asked for 'space' (perhaps she did but he panicked and didn't listen). It doesn't sound like she was wanting to break up.

talaniman · Oct 8, 2010, 07:43 AM

I think your right Cat, since they are still hanging out almost everyday but he is waiting for something official to happen. But he hasn't been back since her birthday. Maybe he got what he wanted.

junior2011 · Mar 15, 2011, 01:30 PM

Same thing happen to me like right now bro I did the same stuff you doing I finally realize just chill if she wants to do what she wants let her you do what you want just be calm bro if she wants you shell come back ipromise but talk to other girls don't have sex until you know that your ready for that but I'm thinking like dang is she going to have sex with somebody... I can't really trip but bro just calm down and relax smoke and chill