[RiderX]

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a yr and a half and I like to have sex a decent amount and she doesn't like to do it that often. She has always been that way. She can only orgasm through her ****, she never has through penetration no matter how hard or fast we do it. Is it normal for some girls just to not like to do it that often? A Females response would be greatly appreciated, but if not anything will be great thanks a lot!!

[Enigma1999]

How old are you two?

[Sparrow1027]

I seem to have your problem in reverse! So I suppose the answer is "no". Some girls really do have high libido's. I have talked to my sisters and cousins - we all want it often - maybe it is the way you were brought up. With a healthy love for, and enjoyment of life including a really good physical relationship. I think I need a new boyfriend!

[RiderX]

Yeah I have never met a guy that doesn't like it a lot, I mean I don't mind not doing it that often, but I would enjoy doing it much more:) she says twice to three times a week is more than plenty but I say I would like it more than that. Is that normal? How often do you and your boyfriend do it if you don't mind me asking? Thanks for the opinion though!

[Cat1864]

From a previous post and the op's profile:

Experience
20 yrs. old...

It is very common for women to not be able to reach orgasm through penetration alone. Many need added stimulation to their clitoris.

Quite frankly, "she never has through penetration no matter how hard or fast we do it." sounds like you are hammering a nail instead of making love or even having sex.

If you are (and I hate the phrase) 'banging away' trying to get her to feel good, it is no wonder she doesn't want sex all that often. It is very difficult to get into sex or let yourself relax enough to feel pleasure if, instead, you feel like concrete being jackhammered apart.

Try slowing down. Look into Tantric Sex. Try different positions. Some women find it better if they are on top and can have more control.

[Enigma1999]

RiderX : why would age matter? Just curious. I'm 20 though and she was my first and she was with one guy before me. And the way it sounds is it was the same way even when she was with him

I want to make sure that I am not giving advice to a 14 year old. Read all of the rules for AMHD, you will see it listed in them.

Back to your question, first off, I think 3 times a week is pretty good. There are couples out there that only make love 3 times a month, if that.

Let me ask you, do you romance her? Do you make it about her? Or are you just "expecting" more?

Have you sat down and asked her?

Again though, I think you're in pretty good shape with 3 times a week.

I see nothing wrong with that.

As far as her not being able to orgasm during sex, are you stimulating her clitoris? Are you being sensual with her, building it up for her?

I'm going to sound blunt here, but you just can't get on top of her and either go fast or slow, as you put it. You ned to kiss her passionatley, caress her, rub her, talk to her, look into her eyes. You need to be more sensual.

Are these things that you do?

[Cat1864]

RiderX : why would age matter? Just curious. I'm 20 though and she was my first and she was with one guy before me. And the way it sounds is it was the same way even when she was with him

Age matters because this is the Adult Sexuality Board and we are not allowed to give sexually oriented/explicit advice to minors (people under the age of 18).

[RiderX]

I am 20 years old she is younger than me by a couple years. We love each other very much and plan on getting married some day. We do have romantic sex at times and we enjoy it very much:)We also try different positions and we like that also. I am

[RiderX]

Never able to stimulate her c*** while we are doing it, but I do before hand and we always have foreplay beforehand we both love foreplay beforehand, and I have gotten her to or**** many times orally. I always kiss her neck and chest and run my

[RiderX]

Hands all over her. When we do do it we both really enjoy it and it's a great moment I just would like it more and was seeing if it was normal for her not to want to do it as much as me. Thanks for the input a little backwards, but great advice thanks

[RiderX]

Trust me I'm 20 she is just a couple years younger than me and considered a minor and people always freak out about it, when I don't understand the difference between someone 30 dating some that's 22 or even further apart. WE do have very sensual sex

[RiderX]

And have plenty of foreplay. We love each other very much and love when we do it she just simply doesn't like to do it as much as I do and I was just seeing if that was normal? I don't look at her as an object. I Love to have very romantic sex over like

[RiderX]

I enjoy orally pleasing her just as much as doing it:) And I go rather quickly because I am so turned on by her and we have to slow down because I might go just an fyi:) Thanks for the comments though!

[Enigma1999]

RiderX : hands all over her. When we do do it we both really enjoy it and it's a great moment I just would like it more and was seeing if it was normal for her not to want to do it as much as me. Thanks for the input a little backwards, but great advice thanks

Please stop using the comment box to respond. Go to the bottom of the page and post quick answer. That way other people will be able to repond as well.

Please tell me how my advice to you is a little "backwards"?

[RiderX]

For everyone On this post I am 20 yrs. Old I don't know how you want me to prove it but I am going overseas very soon to serve our country. I asked why age matters because she is a couple years younger than me and considered a minor, but we love each other and plan to get married someday. She is not your typical younger girl either and that's why I am dating her:) Any other thoughts or advice would be great! Thanks for everything so far though!

[Enigma1999]

For everyone On this post I am 20 yrs. old I dont know how you want me to prove it but I am going overseas very soon to serve our country. I asked why age matters because she is a couple years younger than me and considered a minor, but we love eachother and plan to get married someday. She is not your typical younger girl either and thats why I am dating her:) Any other thoughts or advice would be great! thanks for everything so far though!

Nobody is asking you to prove your age. I only asked you once. You answered me following a question as to why age should matter. Cats and I explained why and that was all. Nobody is here to judge you only to help answer your questions.

However, we too will have questions along the way to better understand your situation.

[Cat1864]

Your age isn't the issue, her age is.

I am sorry but I can't give any more advice on how to get a minor to want more sex. It isn't judging you or her. It would be legally irresponsible of me to not advise you to wait until she is older.

[Synnen]

Thread closed.

We are not giving advice on how to stimulate a minor to more sex.

[RiderX]

O got you now understood:) Sorry I will delete this

[RiderX]

Sorry understood. Deleting this