[silvya31]

I am 20 years old and this is my first relationship so it is a lot more difficult to bear.He is 26 years old and we've been together for an year.I gave him everything that I am and I trully love him ,he loves me aloso but he never made a secret out of the fact that he is not attracted to me sexually.He said that he loves me because I am pure,kind and different from all the girls he's been with(a lot! ).I don't know what to do(I've lost my virginity with him so I don't have a lot of experience).He's never had a serious relationship and never felt like this for anyone until me.He said that I am beautifull, that a great body , a calm and childlike character,he adores that but not sexually,but that I shouldn't change.He doesn't blame me and I think he is confused .It is hard for us, esspecially for me,we agreed to let time pass and see how things turn out because we just can't let go.I know I am still a child,I feel like one,I have no experience but I have hope that with time, I will become a woman and that he will see me as one.
I would apreciate any advice or similar experiences,
Silvya

[Shadowburn]

Unfortunately, all those wonderful things he sees in you are not enough for a successful romantic relationship. He may convince you and himself that it's going to work, but the moment he'll meet someone with all those qualities AND he'll be sexually attracted to them, he'd be out of the door in 30 seconds. You can't fool nature.

On the other hand, don't you won't to be with a man who'd drool at the mere sight of you? Who'd make you feel sexy and desirable? That's totally different from what you have now:)

Good luck.

[martinizing2]

I will agree that he sounds confused.
And that is his strongest attribute that I can see.

1. He has had a lot of sexual experience but no serious relationships at 26 yrs.= selfish and shallow as I see it.

2 He loves you because you are kind and pure and different than the other girls.= soon you will be too good for him and he will leave to help you out.

3 You are beautiful, great body, calm childlike character , that he is not sexually attracted to.= A total inconsistency of his life as referred to In 1

4 So he takes your virginity, and then wants to let time pass and see what happens.=? Is he living in your place ? Does he pay or contribute to the bills


This situation is not right. There are things here that tell me all of this is wrong on a level that is not indicated by anything you have told us.
If I were directly involved as a close friend or family member I'd be doing backround checks, and having a currant investigation run.

That aside, he is setting you up to dump or string along as a bank, or a sex toy, or a backboard for the rebounds.
I don't like anything about him or the situation you described.
This is not good.

[talaniman]

Are you still having any sex at all? If you are stop!!

I think he is being directly honest with you and telling you that he is no longer interested in a romance, or building a future with you. He has commitment issues that are beyond your control, and to answer your question directly the answer is NO.

Its all up to you to let go of such a person that cannot give you what you have given him.

Letting go starts with stopping all the contact, so you can heal, without his influence. Maybe neither of you WANTS to, but to get those extremely strong feelings under control, you really HAVE to leave each other alone.

Sometimes when affairs of the heart are over, or when they degrade from being wonderful to being hurtful, we have to let go for the sake of sanity, and self respect. For sure when one partner isn't willing to work through issues with the other, then it is a big waste to keep trying, and you have to do what's right for yourself, and leave them alone.