[dani_romero]

I'm 14 and he's 15, we've been dating for about 11 months now... and I want us to be more intimate without having sex. He knows I'm trying to tell him something but it never ends up being said.. how can I tell him? I need help

[ally_24]

Well dani.. I know where your coming from,I hd the same problem.you are young still so I'm glad you don't want sex.. your virginity is a very presious thing. Anyway just tell him that you would like to be closer to each other. Or send some hints while you guys make out,that's usually the best time in my opinion.. guide his hands to where you want them, and I'm sure he'll get the idea ;D. if your in public keep it to a minimum where no one will see,don't make it obvious to everyone,just him.although in privite by all means go nuts girlfriend.. haha hope this helps good luck! :3

[411Help]

You're so young, slow down. Don't worry about things like intimacy. You can worry about all of that stuff when you and your boyfriend are a lot older.

[talaniman]

Being intimate is what leads to sex, so just watch a movie, TV, or play a game, but don't start messing with things you know nothing about, because this fellow may get the wrong idea, and think he can try all his tricks that his friends tell him will make him feel good, but you may not like them.

Until you can define what your idea of intimate is, don't do it period.

[martinizing2]

im 14 and hes 15, we've been dating for about 11 months now...and i want us to be more intimate without having sex. he knows im trying to tell him something but it never ends up being said..how can i tell him?? i need help

Tell him that in 4 or 5 years you would like to check into
Becoming more intimate.
If he really cares for you he'll wait.
If you really care for you... you'll wait.

Why make it more tempting? That won't help.
If you get carried away one time it can end your life as you know it.
And you will not be ready for it at 14 or 15 or 16 or 18

I had my first child when I was 17 , she was 16.

So from experience I can tell you your life changes in ways you never thought of. And none of it is fun.

Proceed with extreme caution.

[martinizing2]

This is similar to helping a 5 yr old sneak off with a loaded gun.
Consider the age... of these kids.

[Jake2008]

AT 14 years old, you need to keep your pants on, and your hands to yourself.

Risking being 'more intimate', means risking sex, obviously. If you take that risk, at age 14, you risk pregnancy.

If you risk becoming pregnant, and do get pregnant, you need to have a good income to support a baby. i.e. not taxpayer supported. I presume at your age you probably don't even pay for your own cell phone, let alone have enough left over from an allowance to buy a box of diapers.

Being intimate is NOT a game. It just isn't something you decide to do one night with the same importance you put on picking out what colour nailpolish you're going to use.

Being intimate is being mature enough to handle the consequences. Being intimate is for adults. Or at least someone who can fathom the consequences, and make an informed decision. Or decisions- such as birth control.

Not to mention, that should you get pregnant, your 15 year old boyfriend will be gone.

For whatever reasons you want to tell your boyfriend that you want sex, can never justify sex at age 14. You are not ready at 14 to even be considered old enough to be responsible enough to drive a car. What makes you think you're ready for sex.

Please reconsider what you want to do here. Give yourself another 48 months to be a kid, and enjoy what life has to offer you at your age. Blowing it, will be a lifelong regret in my opinion.

[Homegirl 50]

At your age the most intimate you should get is sharing a box of popcorn.
When you play with fire you're bound to get burnt.
This 15 year old seems to know what's up. Take a lesson from him and leave the intimacy alone.

[lJ.]

To add, I think it would be important to tell him that you are not ready to have sex, in general.