[Confused088]

Well, I'm a young woman, but there's this attraction that I have NEVER felt before about, Dustin, one of my closest guy friends. I think there is NO way someone as... Wonderful, as HIM would date someone like ME. I don't know what I should do, I REALLY don't want to ruin our friendship. What do I do?

[redhed35]

If you think there is no way someone like him would date you,then your probably right...

If you think sure why not,I'm wonderful too,your in with a chance.

There's a gamble involved though.

If it goes wrong and he is not interested in you,you may lose the friendship,if he is interested it might go your way.

Only way to find out is talk to him about it and see how he feels about it.

[abelladonus]

You no longer have an untainted friendship if one of the friends has feelings for the other. There will always be extra pain when the Dustin tells you about some other girl and you will, most likely without even realizing it, manipulate his feelings towards others in hopes that one day your love will be requited.

The best thing you can do is just be honest. You are being really down on yourself and I am sure that you are a wonderful girl who completely deserves a great guy to love you and treat you like you matter in this world. Tell him that you like him, though it might be best to do it subtly so as not to scare him. If he has similar feelings, that he may be hiding as well, then hurray. He may not, but isn't it better to know than to just feel unworthy all the time?

[Nathan19]

Don't hold back you've only got one life live it too the full if there's something you want get it

[Cindersarah]

Here's a thing you have to consider... Is he a guy you see being in your life for the rest of it? If you feel like you can talk to him about anything, than why not talk about how your feelings for him have changed? I know it'd be a scary as heck conversation from your end... but living with What ifs' would suck so much as well! The best marriages (sorry if the M word isn't something you were thinking at all!) are ones where they were best friends first... and this might not be the case here, but wouldn't it be better to establish the relationship for what it is than having it imbalanced on your end? If you know he doesn't have feelings for you, it'd be easier to grieve then let go of your feelings.

As for the you don't see someone like him going out with someone like you... maybe he's thinking the same thing on his end... or perhaps you putting some light on the situation will make him think about the possibilities. I say go for it! Because if you're as close friends as you think you are, then it may be awkward at first, but should ease out eventually if it ends up not turning into something more.