[harmonie]

"Hello everyone I am 20 and my boyfriend is 28,older than me i know
but we get along very well,we were best friends before anything ,he is
the person I trust the most I tell him everything! But now I moved
because i was offered a scholarship by another university when I moved we were
still friends nothing else!! And it's been a year since I have moved
but we really stayed in touch we talked everyday !my family knows him
(as my friend though) and his knows me we are that close!!
He grew up in a non affectionate family and he is normally not crazy about PDA or anything related to that but this summer we were talking as usual he asked
me why I wanted a boyfriend for I told him stuff like somebody who
calls me before sleeping,somebody to call just to tell me they
miss .somebody i can make feel special.he said but I do that with you I said no you are my friend and I
want someone who has feelings for me!Then after that day he started
acting like an affectionate person,text me how he misses me and loves
me,how beautiful I am it caught me off guard since he is not that kind
of person I even mentioned it and he goes"that's the side of me that
You didn't know"! And after he asked me to be his gf he said he has always liked me but never told me !I accepted (i have been in love with him since 2008 but has never told him cause i didn't wanna loose the friendship in case he wasn't interested and i actually thought that he wasn't interested) It was
great he would text and call all the time and send cute messages
But since two weeks ago things have changed he went back to being a
non affectionate person!!!I asked him why?he said that I shouldn't
complain!!He does say i love you or i miss you or call me pet names but that is only when i am upset or he wants something that i dont want.But I really want him to be affectionate again!why did he go
from non affectionate to affection and now back to non affectionate?
did he get affectionate to get me but now that he has me he thinks
he can relax?Does that mean he doesn't really love me like that?Should i confront him about it again?What if he says dont complain like the first time? I am very romantic and i pay attention to small details like i text him every morning before class between classes,i email him everyday,i call him to ask how was he day and catch up when he emails or text there is nothing sweet in there its like hey girl how was your day? i know he loves me but i am confused please help!
I know it's long am sorry
Thank you guys in advance!"

[Devorameira]

You sound like a loving caring person. I'm sorry to say this, but most unaffectionate men never become affectionate. Some will get more comfortable with telling their girl that they love them, but they'll never be able to show the love and passion that an affectionate person craves.

He knows that you are an affectionate person and want him to be the same, but he's choosing to ignore your feelings.

If I were in your shoes, I would seriously re-think this relationship. You deserve someone that shows you how he feels everyday.

[talaniman]

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...do-507877.html

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