[slimsimon]

I'm rooting for the wife. OP you blame every thing on being away from home and being along. I'm sure the "other woman" didn't handcuff you to you're bed and make you have sex (although that may be why you like her) You couldn't keep your zipper closed and your paying the price.
I have no sympathy for you.

You continue to make me painfully aware that you have no sympathy for me. I am not looking for sympathy. I am trying to decide how to proceed in my life and do what is best for my boys, my wife, and me going forward. Please do not reply unless you have something constructive to add to this discussion. Thanks.

[Jake2008]

Slim,

One thing that posters cannot do dictate who can respond, and in what manner. You may not find a particular answer helpful, and if you don't, just move on. Some answers you will find beneficial, some you won't.

As to now, how are things going.

Has there been any progress?

[slimsimon]

Slim,

One thing that posters cannot do dictate who can respond, and in what manner. You may not find a particular answer helpful, and if you don't, just move on. Some answers you will find beneficial, some you won't.

As to now, how are things going.

Has there been any progress?

Understood. Apologies all.

Nothing new. Everything is holding and moving in slow motion. I am attempting to reach out and she is giving me little to nothing in return.

Taking some time to be alone this morning, hopefully give me some perspective. Also resumed my meditating this week after a long hiatus. Hoping that will bear some fruit as well. And a new therapist this week.

[slimsimon]

Slim,

One thing that posters cannot do dictate who can respond, and in what manner. You may not find a particular answer helpful, and if you don't, just move on. Some answers you will find beneficial, some you won't.

As to now, how are things going.

Has there been any progress?

Thank you for asking.

[Jake2008]

Very good to hear you are meditating, and spending some time on your own, just to focus and think. Good for you. I know myself that when I get overwhelmed with stuff going on, I take the bike out. I hate exercise, but, it really helps to clear out the cobwebs.

AND a new therapist! Excellent. Progress may be slower than you like, but stick with it. Good to know you have this lined up.

Keep us posted.

[slimsimon]

Very good to hear you are meditating, and spending some time on your own, just to focus and think. Good for you. I know myself that when I get overwhelmed with stuff going on, I take the bike out. I hate excercise, but, it really helps to clear out the cobwebs.

AND a new therapist!! Excellent. Progress may be slower than you like, but stick with it. Good to know you have this lined up.

Keep us posted.

YES! I am on the bike today!!

[Kitkat22]

I hope it works out for you. Frankly, I would have been gone a long time ago if I had been in her shoes.

You do have some nerve, snooping in her things. Maybe if she had snooped in your yours she would have been gone already.

Cheating on your wife while she was pregnant with your child is deplorable. If she can forgive you and you can regain her trust , then you have to do everything you can to keep your family together.

It hurts beyond anything you can
Ever imagine for a pregnant woman to find that her husband
Has been cheating.

If there is anything she wants to do to save the marriage, do it.
Counseling or going to church or whatever, do it.

It might not be too late and instead of meditating try praying and ask God what to do. You may not believe in him, but he is hope when you feel there is none.

[DG]

I suggest you move on there will never be trust between the two of you again.
I sorry you got caught and crap came down on you.
If you wouldn't have got caught ,
You wouldn't be feeling so bad,
But chances are you would still be cheating on her,So get over it.
People don't feel bad until they get caught,

[slimsimon]

I suggest you move on there will never be trust between the two of you again.
I sorry you got caught and crap came down on you.
if you wouldn't have got caught ,
you wouldn't be feeling so bad,
but chances are you would still be cheating on her,So get over it.
people don't feel bad until they get caught,

No I was feeling bad. Alcohol become my guilt easer more and more. I was best man in my nephews wedding during all this and I got so drunk that I blacked out and got a concussion from hitting my head on the fall after passing out.

I was just too weak and selfish to stop. And I will live with that the rest of my life.

I probably would have continued. Though I know I used Facebook to contact the one night stand on purpose, if subconscious. I needed to get caught. Or kill myself with the bottle. So I guess there is an upside to this.

I am not proud of what I did or who I had become. I am working on both.

[Kitkat22]

No I was feeling bad. Alcohol become my guilt easer more and more. I was best man in my nephews wedding during all this and I got so drunk that I blacked out and got a concussion from hitting my head on the fall after passing out.

I was just too weak and selfish to stop. And I will live with that the rest of my life.

I probably would have continued. Though I know I used Facebook to contact the one night stand on purpose, if subconscious. I needed to get caught. Or kill myself with the bottle. So I guess there is an upside to this.

I am not proud of what I did or who I had become. I am working on both.

I wish you well. The future is just what you make it. Good Luck.

[slimsimon]

I wish you well. The future is just what you make it. Good Luck.

Thanks.

[UWillDK]

Your relationship wouldve been fine if you hadn't cheated. If she doesn't love you anymore because of that and wants to start a new life she's entitled to, because you gave up on her when you slept with a other woman.