[terri5321]

Ok in June me and my husband had a horrible argument he moved out and I've just been a wreck! I've cried, begged everything I could think of to make him come home but nothing worked. I miss him so much and we've been together 13yrs also we have 3 kids.. well lately he has been coming around supposedly to spend time with the kids but we end up having sex! Afterwards it goes back to the same old thing.. IT WON'T WORK! That's what he says... but he's never consistent with what he means... for the past week he has told me that we would get back together eventually then he says he doesn't know or he still needs time.. well recently he told me that he's in love with me that he loves me so much and that he will always love me but as of now he does not want me! He told me that its not me its him and that he doesn't know what the future holds for us.. he says he doesn't want to play with my heart.. my heart is shattered I just want him to come home so we can be a family again.. we've only been married 2 yrs but been together for 13yrs! Please can someone tell me what could be going on because I'm lost and confused... is there a chance he will come home eventually or is this the end?

[Jake2008]

One horrible argument caused this disaster?

What was going on in your relationship between the two of you, prior to this 'one' accident that ended your marriage.

Was there a lot of fighting, arguing, substance abuse, unemployment, physical abuse? This marriage must have been on shaky ground, for one horrible argument to disolve a 13 year relationship that produced 3 children. Did one of you have an affair?

Why does he go, and not try to work on the marriage, and instead just pops in for a booty call. Why do you allow that.

Have the two of you ever tried marriage counselling? Anything before June, to help fix whatever is wrong in the marriage?

Please be honest here, and to get advice based on the little you have said so far, won't be helpful or productive without more substantial information.