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    Aug 22, 2010, 10:06 AM
    Im in love with my ex who's dating my ex best friend.
    Ok so here is the entire story.
    Last summer my best friend was dating this church girl. She was beautiful in every way and I was jealous of him. Shortly before they started going out I was dating her best friend. Me and my girlfriend split and then we were at a birthday party with like 15 pple there and they were all at the campfire. I was sitting beside My best friends girlfriend and then I noticed myself flirting with her and I wasn't going to do that to my best friend so I excused myself from the campfire and I went about a hundred yards away to sit on the swing and get my composure. I wasn't even there 5 minutes before she came up and asked me what I was doing. I answered that I was a country boy and have always loved watching the stars that they helped me clear my head. Then a shooting star past by and she gasped and instantly said make a wish... then I explained how I don't make wishes because they've only ever hurt me before in the past... and we had a really long heart to heart. A couple days after that her and my friend broke up. 2 Days after that he started dating her best friend. I told her my feelings for her which I got during the birthday party and she said that she felt the same way. So for a month we were tlking o our closest friends making sure it was OK if we dated because they were ex's. After a month we started dating and it was the greatest 8 months of my entire life. Then my "bestfriend" tried pulling a move on her. She told me and I went up to him the next day and told him if he tried anything with her again id kick the **** out of him. So I stopped talking to him and so did she cause she was mad about it.Then she broke up with me... I was heartbroken I couldn't do anything for weeks! The ony thing I did was sit in my basement crying with suicide attempts and ways to kill myself without having it look like suicide so my family wouldn't take it as badly. They didn't work and then a girl came into my life that I thought was going to get me over my ex. We started dating because she loved me but I still had thse feelings for my ex and they wouldn't go away. Then me and my ex started talking and hanging out again and then we started to hookup. I felt terrible for cheating I really did but I missed the feeling so much I miss everything about this girl. Now she's dating my ex best friend and her ex again. We hooked p the other week and she cheated on him with me. She says that whenever me and her hangout she feels the spark again and that she made me promise that when we're older we marry each other... but I can't wait that long I'm only 16 and I want her now... I love her and I need her... and I know some pple are like " your 16 you dont know what love is" You can love in your youth it depends on your maturity. But id give anything ad everything for her. So I don't know what to do and I was hoping for some suggestions... thankyou very much
    P.S lost my virginity to this girl.
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    Aug 22, 2010, 11:24 AM

    I see a little red flag popping up. I don't think she should have mentioned to you that your friend had made moves on her. She could have handled that herself by telling him she was with you now. I call that game playing to get reactions, and she got a good reaction I guess.

    I am not going to say you don't know what love is, because I don't know you. You are right, it has a lot to do with maturity, but you can also be bamboozled by a game player and I think this one is. Interesting that you had sex with her. Is she the same age as you ?

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    Aug 25, 2010, 10:56 AM

    Since you are having a hard time coping with your feelings and the reality of your situation, I highly suggest you give your actions a lot of thoughts because you seem to not know what's right or wrong and now you have her cheating, and lying to you but it seems to be okay since you want her so much.

    NO SIR, its not okay to let your feeling lead you down the wrong path, for which there are consequences to pay for bad behavior, and you still will not get what you want out of this mess.
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    Aug 25, 2010, 06:16 PM

    What you need to do is just stay away from this girl. She's trouble for you. Would you really want to marry someone that cheats? What do you think your future will look like?

    Lets look in the crystal ball and see...

    You end up married. Few kids later she cheats. Naturally your angry. You say things. You watch as the court system takes hold of you and your life and rips it apart. Suddenly that rosey life is gone. So are the kids. Lost in the divorce. Your just a walking wallet to the courts.

    That's the mentality your carrying with you. That is the path your on. Go for it!!

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