
Originally Posted by
mohmmed84
but just i want to ask you, there is a way to convince her, sothat I find her back, and no need to see other women.
I know you are right, you have spent lot of time and having more experiece than me and your suggetion more practicle. but I love her, I dont want to mis her.. her memories making me mentally ill, and I dont want to mis her at any cost.
Look at it this way as well.
You THINK you love her... its clear what she wants... and its NOT to marry you.
Even IF you managerd to do it... you will have offended BOTH your families. You will have religion issues to deal with, are you willing to give yours up and convert? Don't like that idea then why should SHE convert, her religion is no less valid or important to her than yours is to you. How about your families... friends... just because it seems to be a great idea to you at this moment, your feelings DO NOT mean the thoughts are rational. In fact, anytime you have thoughts like this about anything... you need to step back and think long and hard. When anyone makes major decisions about ANYTHING in the heat of passion... they nearly always later regret them. And its clear SHE is the only one being rational here. Family is important... friends are important.
You will also discover this infatuation, and it IS infatuation, not love WILL fade with whomever you have it for.
True love is rational... infatuation is never rational. Love allows time to decide what's right... Infatuation thinks you have to get it NOW before someone changes their mind. Her is a newsflash... you ALWAYS regret buying something before you really had a chance to hink about it without excitement clouding your judgement. And Marriage is a major purchase.. whould you buy a house 3 minutes after you first see it... before you know what problems it has, how much upkeep it needs... if you can even afford it? No... you take time to find out all these things. By that time you find out about everything the "I have to buy it NOW before someone else does" moment passes. And you see it for an old run down shack that needs loots of money constantly just to keep everything working.
You WILL have to deal with the reality that nobody is what your mind makes them out to be. This takes a few years and cool heads to decide if everything is right. And that means BOTH people have to fee the same way.
THere are Millions of men out there that are stuck living with women they absolutely HATE... that they married when they were thinking EXACTLY like you are, which is in fact NOT rational. Marriage isn't the newest movie that YOU JUST HAVE TO SEE, because its all you think about...
The little guy in your pants doesn't think things through... don't let him decide what you should be doing.
You aren't selling junk from a stall in the street market. If you have to MAKE someone think they want or need what you offer... then they really know they don't want or need it.
You have to present yourself for who you are, and what you are honestly. Lie and it comes back to harm you. And if they really don't want or like what you have to offer... then you have to let them move on... its their right.