[18Ahunnie]

I am kind of new on this site and I've been trying m best to improve my jealous behaior toward my boyfriend. I need a little bit more help then I thought.

Some backfroung relatinship info about me. I dated a lot of guys so far and partied and had my fun, even though I'm only in my 20's. Basically I know what I want in a relationship.

I grew up in a very nice and friendly family in Europe, however when we came here I got bullied a lot because I didn't speak any English. Just to get to the point I think I was more secure with myself back then when I got picked on, then I am now. I have no idea what that explains. Im into sports and I used to model so when I tell my friends about this subject they think I'm crazy and don't take me serious.

Finally I met a guy and instatnly befriended him. He was not my type so I just had friendshipo in mind, Owveer, after a year knowing him we began dating. We are together as of now and happier then ever. He is my best friend, my boyfriend and everything else. Howveer, one huge problem, I get jealous very easily for no apparent reason.

He is no a guy that wold cheat or disresepct me. Something as simple as looking at a beautiful women up and down that passes by, he doesn't d that in front of me. I really appreciate that.

He has his guy nights and I have no problem with that at all, but I keep thinking that their might be women their or something. He is a lot older then I am so every time I get jealous, I feel ridicolous. Ive heard so many things to d tpo reduce that but its all the same. Tr to ignore it, he is with you and nobody else blah blah blah. Maybe I need some blnt dirsty answers that will srtick with me.

He loves me like nobody has before and he reats me like a princess. He wishes I was a little older so we can get married and start a family.

P.s things I get jealous for.

When i look in his phone their are txts from women and i ask him about them

I don't scream and I don't ell when I'm jealous or angry I just give a look and walk away, he hates that.

He works with absolutely gorgeous women everyday, chats with them and gets to know them

When he tal about work and who he communicated with

Sometimes about his past relationships


Read this, I sound like an absolute idiotic person that doesn't deserve anybody to love her. I hate myself for the way I think about this because he has done nothing to portray any form of disrecpt or cheating,

He once told me that I act as though he already chated on me before.

I am an optomistic, friendly and happy with life person. Usually people like to be in my company.

Maybe it will go away as I age, but I don't have that time, he has already given me more then enough chances.

Please give me some advice and how to stop acting so immature and just stupid.I try my best but i have no idea why imn the back of my head i still feel something to get jealous of


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[TrueFaith]

There is no set way.. sadly

No one can control how they feel,

But we can control how we act.

And that's what you have to do.
When you get these feelings
Our minds can make up a world, that is more real, and more interesting than the best movie or film.
And we play along with that role because we are normally slaves to our emotions and feelings.


Just try talking to yourself in your head.
Go OK he is with me. Yeah there are a lot of hot girls round him
But I see a lot of hot guys and I don't want to go with them.

Why... because I am with him
And he feels the same way.

You have to stop looking around in peoples private area. Seriously. You will not find anything you like.

And something that looks one way. Can be a totally different way. And you will end up losing him over something very very silly
So stop snooping!
If you do not trust him, then leave him.

But he sounds like a nice guy. So as I said
Control how you act.

I can't tell you how to stop feeling jealous because I don't think it will ever go away
You will just learn how to deal with it better.

Sometimes Jealous gets the best of all of us.
And we go into a little freak out.

So you are not the only one that feels like this trust me.

At least you know there is a problem and you are willing to make steps to fixing them
And that is a very big plus sign

All the best

[talaniman]

How old are you?

[18Ahunnie]

21

This is the partying age according to all the people I know, I'm passed that everything is set expcet for this. At least I'm trying to make it better

[CHRISTINA7]

Where from Europe?
I'm from Romania.

[burnsy1992]

You sound like me. There's nothing I can say to you because I am still having trouble with my own feelings towards my partner. But the advice you have been given sounds completely sane. Please do not feel alone though, there are many people with this problem. You are not as insane as you think you are, you're just emotionally unstable, insecure.