[tottonfemale40]

I have the same dilemma here in the UK, my son came to stay for 2 days over a year ago but refused to leave to go back to his apartment which he eventually lost. He will not pay any rent, steals from me and my husband, does not pay anything towards utility bills and constantly leaves the TV on in my living room (which he sleeps in and me and my husband cannot use anymore). He makes a mess everywhere my living room looks like a homeless persons squat. I have called Police when he has assaulted me I once had a concussion from him pushing me over in my kitchen and I hit my head on the counter top. Police do not want to get involved. Only way I can get him out is going to cost a lot of money, or get some guys to rough him up, neither option is possible? Help?

[ScottGem]

First its not a good idea to piggyback your question on someone else's. This can lead to confusion. You should start a new thread. So I've moved your question to its own thread.

You need to lean on the police. If he is physically violent towards you and there is a police record of this, you should be able to go to court and get a restraining order to force him to stay away. Once that's done, you can arrange for him to get his belongings and change the locks.

Otherwise, you will probably have to go through the formal eviction process in your area.

[tottonfemale40]

Thanks Scott, but it all comes down to money at the end of the day, money I don't have! :-(

[tottonfemale40]

Also, he does not have a key, because he was never invited to "reside" here in the first place, it was meant to be a visit. He would not care if the doors were locked, he would watch the house until I went out, then would climb my neighbors fence and get in through the back by smashing windows. He is a very nasty boy.

[ScottGem]

How long has he been there? If he has illegally entered the premises have him arrested for burglary. This seems more and more a police matter and you need to badger them.

[tottonfemale40]

Just over a year. He has actually 30 minutes ago agreed to leave and will come for his belongings after 7pm uk time today. Hopefully this will happen. Its hard when u have to throw out your own child, but he is an adult and he was extremely disrespectful. He will be fine...

[ScottGem]

Good luck and keep us posted.

I would suggest securing the windows, maybe get an alarm system to inhibit him from breaking in again.

[tottonfemale40]

Police advised calling the council (who own my home) and the council said (as I knew) that it was a legal matter, although the Police said when he goes out I could bag all his stuff up and put it out the front, which has now been done. Me and my husband have to go out soon and will be locking all windows and doors etc so if he climbs round the back of the house and breaks in, he is playing right into my hands, and he will be arrested for breaking in. He tried saying this morning that he had "squatters rights" which the Police found highly amusing. He does not get them in a tenanted house, only if it is empty and only for 5 days! Watch this space..

[tottonfemale40]

I need to get an injunction against him (restraining order) and then if he comes back to the house he will be removed.

[ScottGem]

I need to get an injunction against him (restraining order) and then if he comes back to the house he will be removed.

That's what I said.

Keep us posted.

[tottonfemale40]

You will be pleased to know that he has now vacated the house last Wednesday. Jamie was extremely abusive and was trying to kick my front door in, he went to the back, found he could not get in there and smashed the window. Police came and were in fact very helpful after the last lot that came. They told him to leave and not to come back and that if he did come back to call them again. They gave him a lift to his friends and he is staying there for the time being. Sad ending, but he brought it all on himself. I won't ever take him in, or see him again. Thanks for all the support x

[ScottGem]

Well I can't say I'm glad to hear it worked out, because in one way it didn't. It's a shame when a child goes bad. But I'm glad to hear he's out.