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justjamestx · Dec 21, 2006, 01:56 AM

Jesushelper76:
I will admit I know nothing about aids, so people with aids generally know they have this right away? I have heard stories of people not finding out they out they had this virus after more than a year? But again, those are stories and not fact and I certainly do not know that facts of the aids virus.

Wildcat21 · Dec 21, 2006, 09:25 AM

Well? What happened with the test?

Have tried to speak wit her?

JoeCanada76 · Dec 21, 2006, 11:10 AM

The tests take at least 2 to 3 weeks to return. Be patient everybody.

bas86 · Dec 30, 2006, 05:32 PM

Her father asked me two days ago to visit her because she needs me she is turning into dead ghost ! Well I refused to do that because I felt that time she cheated me ! How bastard am I? I asked him how did she got hiv, he told me that she didn't told them tell now and they don't want to know how .

Today the test is done... I don't have Aids thanks god .
Have you ever seen a grown man cry like a baby? I have cried and cried a lot. I came home , imagining her... well guess what I did? I went to the bathroom and muffled my cry. I coulnd take it. My Love Rasha?! God she's 20 years old , she had been my life. I have asked God that I'm dreaming or at least to be the story one of her lies, After one Year of sharing good and bad times... sharing the same heart?!
I feel guilty I left her fighting her disease alone... I'm BF OF A GIRL HAD AIDS!! And BF of Broken Heart GF!!
I remember on the 1st of this month we were planing for the new year we wrote big list then but how after this... what should I do now ?

J_9 · Dec 30, 2006, 05:45 PM

Originally Posted by bas86

Today the test is done ....positive, i dont have Aids thanks god .

Did your physician say that you do NOT have it? I am afraid to say, but positive usually means you do have it.

Negative would mean you do not.

Unless it is different in your country of course.

bas86 · Dec 30, 2006, 05:50 PM

No I don't had it... I say positive because I pass it , the physician didn't told me positive or negative .

J_9 · Dec 30, 2006, 05:55 PM

Congratulations!! The test must have said negative then.

Just FYI, you posted the word positive so many people will think that the test was positive and that you DO have it.

bas86 · Dec 30, 2006, 06:00 PM

Edited thank you... yes it must be negative

manimuth · Dec 30, 2006, 06:17 PM

Originally Posted by bas86

well i refused to do that because i felt that time she cheated me ! how bastard am I !?

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This is such an emotional time in your life and you are trying to deal with a mix of polar emotions. Don't be so hard on yourself. You love your girlfriend very much but you were not ready to see her then.

Originally Posted by bas86

what should i do now ?

Well, first be grateful that you are not sick. Now, you must decide if you are willing or ready to face the future with a woman who has AIDS or if you do not feel capable of handling such a demanding role and so, leave her. I, in no way, pretend that this is an easy decision or that the options are so clear cut. It will take time for you to process your feelings so take it easy and give yourself time to think and sort it out. I encourage you to talk to her when you are ready. Communicate with her and let her answer your questions. In the end, make sure that your decision, that will surely be hard whatever it will be, is HONEST: to yourself as well as to her. Finally, I give you an advice someone once gave me: There are only a few decisions that one can make in this world that are final. Have the courage to know that you might be making a mistake but also have the comfort to know that you have the power to correct them.

I hope that you find courage at such a painful and hard time in your life.

lily-butterfly · Dec 31, 2006, 01:21 AM

Omg don't care about her because if this was not because of you that means she is sleeping with everyone in other words she is cheating on you.
By the way when a girl sleep with one means she sleeps with everyone
So why do you care
Good luck in your test and tell us about the result

J_9 · Dec 31, 2006, 08:50 AM

Lily-butterfly,

Just because someone has AIDS does not mean she contracted it through sex. There are many ways to get AIDS other than sex.

Secondly, did you read the thread? Apparently not, because he already has the result. He does not have the disease.

lily-butterfly · Jan 1, 2007, 01:12 AM

If that's not de reason why do you think if you think about it logically she doesn't want to tell anybody why she had it...
If it wasn't the reason I told you about she would say it out load not be ashaimed

TheSavage · Jan 1, 2007, 06:31 AM

I am sure one of the medical experts will correct if I am wrong , but from what Ive read in the past, the young lady could have contracted HIV long before her relationship with the op and not been diagnosed with it till now.
Its like a hidden time bomb.
A lot of the folks posting are assuming she kept this hidden but note the op original line
"after one year of true love .... she founds that she had aids "
Not she told me she has aids.
Bas86 my heart goes out to you and your lady. May life lead you down the path that is right for you.

JoeCanada76 · Jan 1, 2007, 08:41 AM

I was wrong in my previous posts. To assume that she did this while they were together was a wrong assumption. I hope that you find out exactly why and how she contracted it. It could have happened while you were together, but it could have happened before hand as well. It is up to you whether you see this girl. Your love. I am happy that your clean. Now it is up to you what you decide to do. It sounds like she is very sick. My prayers are with her, you and all the family that is involved. Again, I apologize for jumping the gun and jumping to conclusions which just compounded your confusion in what to do with this situation. I am sorry.

Joe

J_9 · Jan 1, 2007, 10:41 AM

Yes, AIDS is a hidden timebomb. Some people have the HIV for up to 15 years before they find out they have it. It can manifest itself with a form of pneumonia that will not resolve. The particular pneumonia is called pneumocystic pneumona and only AIDS patients get it.

Now, as for how she got it. That is not really all that important in my view. There are many ways, a blood transfusion, a needle stick if she was a health care worker, sex, IV drug user, to name a few. She may have even gotten it from a past sexual partner who to this day does not even know he has it. This is why it is so important for every sexual partner she ever had to be tested.

I too am sorry you are going through this. I am sure she needs someone like you, so caring, right now.

Wildcat21 · Jan 2, 2007, 11:38 AM

I'd go to her and talk with her.

You need some honest answers from her.

Have an open mind. No expectations.

Do this!!

Then take a couple days and think about things.

bas86 · Jan 4, 2007, 04:36 PM

I'm Just Want to U all guys U helped me in those Hard days... Maybe its written in my book to face tragedic end in this love , but the good side that I found Good friends here.

Ive talked with Rasha and I Gave her the Hope that she's really need for and ill stand with her till the end .
I found the true Humanity here.
Thank you Jesushelper76, Wildcat21, J_9,TheSavage,manimuth... and all.

JoeCanada76 · Jan 4, 2007, 04:52 PM

Your welcome, Anytime you need any of us we will be here. I am happy you talked with her and you are going to stand with her till the end. You are a true man.

Joe

Wildcat21 · Jan 5, 2007, 09:46 AM

Good luck. There are ways around this. Ask your doctor. She needs you more than ever now.

Does she know how she got the virus? Pretty important to keep thatperson from spreading it. They might not even know.

J_9 · Jan 5, 2007, 01:33 PM

Bas86, Good luck to you!! She really is going to need someone like you to help her through this.

Be her friend, she needs one right now!!