[phoenixrising45]

My girlfriend tells me she wants a break so that she can be a teenager and be free. She keeps feeling attraction to different people and doesn't know why. She knows she loves me and tells me we have something that few people find. She has a past of being abused by her father. I think that she craves the attention people who are interested in her give her and so she thinks she likes them in return. Her father verbally abused her and I think she seeks hearing that she truly is a good person and anyone who tells her that contradicts her father and gives her hope. She thinks her issues are giving us this trouble and holding her back. The majority of the people she supposedly is attracted to are abusive in some way. I think that is because abuse victims tend to be vulnerable to abusers and lots of times end up with an abuser, which definitely doesn't mean they are people she should be with. I think deep down people like her somehow believe that they don't deserve a good person and they pull themselves away from it when they find it even if they don't want to break up. Does any of that make sense? What is she really thinking and what should I do?

[JoeCanada76]

Yes it all makes sense at the same time. You can not change her. Until she figures herself out she is no good to you or anybody else. The thing is you can not prevent her from seeking out the attention of abusive people.

The thing is there is nothing you really can do but let her go, let her be free.

So in my opinion a break, is permanent. In this case whether she wants it or not. Instead of leaving you hanging in the wind it is best to make it clear on your end. That a break to you means that it is over.

[fabulous_lu]

Yes it makes perfect since.It's probably just like you said.I would giver her her space,and see how it goes.But also make sure you support her decision,because if you don't she might get mad at you and leave you all together.Good luck! :)

[EarlyCupid12]

F her, like seriously even if you really like her. I've been through this with my ex boyfriend and it's a waste of time, it took me to have to be hurt real bad before I realized I could find someone who will like worship me and not tell me they want to be free, If you wanted to be free don't Freaking agree to be with me and lead me on, you know. But seriously if she really wanted you she'd make it happen.

[ClueLess033]

She just needs some space
Don't spend as much time with her
She don't want to brake-up
She need a brake(free time) to herself

[Fr_Chuck]

First how old is everyone ? But it is very possible that she feels she is being too close or tied down at this early age

[kierra4000]

You should respect her wishes and remain as her friend. You can still care and love her on a friendly level. This is something she's just going to have to work on by herself or with someone that loves her dearly.