[ho222]

Me and my girlfriend have been together for just over two years, we met on the internet which is not ideal - I'm from England and she is from Norway.. we've had a great two years with the occasional rough patch as everyone does but about a week ago we had quite a serious argument (I won't go into details on this) since then it has not been the same and its been a very rough week for me, I love her more than anything else in the world and I've sacraficed a lot to be with her, at the beginning of the relationship I was very forward with her emotionally, expressing my feelings a lot and telling her how much I cared.. after a while she explained to me that it was a bit too much but since then I've backed off a lot.. this problem arose during the first few months of the relationship. I tend to be someone that analyzes everything unfortunately and looks into things too far which is what causes our current problem.. I think I questioned her too much and tried to talk things out when she didn't want too and pushed her away, we are now on a "break" until she is due to come and see me again in early August.. im not sure what to do as this is really hurting and I don't know what she wants or is planning to do.. its long distance so personally I think that is the issue, should I just wait this break out and hope she cracks and realises she misses me? I do wonder why she is still with me sometimes.. but I also know that if she didn't want to be with me she wouldn't be, there's nothing keeping her attached too me if she did want to end it.. anyway any advice would be fantastic and if I'm able to add more info I can.

[kutocer]

I would say wait till she comes over, give her the time and space to think things through. No doubt she will talk about it with you when she sees you. Give yourself time to think about it and what you want. Keep yourself busy till that time she comes over and sit down with her.

[Beautiful01]

She is probably confused because you told her how you cared then backed off. I would wait it out to see what she does and if she doesn't come back go to her telling her how much you love her and ask her what she needs and if there's anyway she needs you can help:)

[ho222]

Seems I ran out of space on the added notes part - too make it short, I kind of pushed her into this break and I really regret what I've done.. ill update in a week or so too see if we are on better terms :(

[kutocer]

Just give her the space and don't push her anymore. Its hard I know but it's the best for both of you.

[positiveparent]

Seems all you can do is give her the break she wants and space so that she can resolve her issues and get to grips with what she wants, once you see each other in person you can then talk it over and decide what you both want.

[talaniman]

You don't have to do anything if your on a break but live your life, and let her worry about what she wants to do.

I have never been a big fan of waiting for someone else to decide what I was going to do, and since you expect her back next month, I would surely be talking about this break thing, and get some clear terms of what the heck is a break. That would have been my first question. So what are the terms of this break, and why do you think you're still together?

I think you both need to make some adjustments to build better communications, especially with the distance because from what you have written, there are more problems than fun, and who needs a relationship like that?

[ho222]

Ive attempted to talk about it once but it just made matters worse.. the there aren't really any terms.. minimal contact.. I obviously won't be looking for other partner as I'm still madly in love with her... I asked her whether she is wanting to see other people and she said no on that, and I don't know why we are still together.. I guess because I fought for the relationship this time instead of just letting it slide.. I just hope it all works out ;/